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What you need to know about ticks!

With summer starting it is worth talking about ticks. Lyme disease can be misdiagnosed, so if you have any of the symptoms (even if you don’t see a tick or bite), talk to your doctor. Be sure to read the PSP guide to what you need to know about ticks on the PSP website here.

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How To Talk To Kids About Death: Overview

 

This is an overview from the 2018 talk, "How To Talk with Kids About Death" Park Slope Parents and Green-wood Cemetery co-sponsored. 

Presenters:

Amy Cunningham, The Inspired Funeral

Liana Smith-Murphy, Play, Child and Adolescent Therapist at BrooklynPlayTherapy.com

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Age appropriate honesty is important. Kids know more than we think they do. If you’re not honest kids can come up with fantasized explanations of death (“I made grandma get sick and die”). Using concrete things like “X has died. Their body is no longer working” (rather than “Nana is ‘sleeping’” which can freak young kids out and lead to, “when is she going to wake up?”). You can also talk about your beliefs: “Our family believes that after someone dies you go to heaven.”

Let kids ask questions. Many adults have issues about talking about death so kids can believe it’s not okay to talk about being sad or the death. Everyone experiences death differently.

 

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Resources for Coping with Park Slope's Tragedy

For many, the crash at 9th Street and 5th Avenue on March 5th, 2018 was very emotional. For people on the scene it was even more traumatic.  We're working with some trauma and grief therapists (thanks to them for reaching out) to put together sessions that may help folks deal with the emotional aftermath of today's scene. Here are those resources:

Whether you were a witness, heard about it and were impacted, or had another experience that was retriggered by last week’s neighborhood (local? 5th Avenue?) tragedy, your feelings around this matter.

Below is a list of therapists who have offered support or have been listed as specializing in trauma/grief. We appreciate their stepping forward to help. (As a reminder—this is not an endorsement of any one therapist or approach to therapy.)

It's important to be supportive of the people who were there; it can help with their recovery.  We are going to gather a list of resources and post those as well.  

Please share these resources with your nanny-- some were at the scene and others know someone who has been impacted.

Resources about coping with this traumatic event:

 

 

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The Doughnut Fix Launch Party

Bring your child (8-years-old and up) to the Brooklyn Public Library to celebrate the publication of The Doughnut Fix, the first book in a fun new series by New York author Jessie Janowitz.
Meet the author and hear her read an excerpt from the book!


Enjoy hands-on activities!

There will be a book sale and signing!

Doughnuts will be served!


What: The Doughnut Fix Launch Party
When: Saturday, April 21st
Time: 1:00pm
Where: Brooklyn Public Library, Dweck Center

More Info HERE

Donut Fix

 

This event is recommended for ages 8 and up.

 

Top Twenty Baby on the Beach Tips

 

 

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Basics:
Swimsuit – depending on the age, either a float suit with adjustable buoyancy or “puddle-jumper” floaties
Rashguard – longer-sleeved suits that protect best from sun
Sun Hat – with tie and long back
Beach Towels (2/child) – reserve one for an end-of-the-beach-day-scrub
Sunscreen (check the use-by date and get a baby-friendly one)**
Swim diapers (even if kids don’t go in the water these are good)
Wipes
Water bottle/cup – Yeti or Thinkbaby make good ones
Washable Beach Bag with wet bags or large Ziplocs
Bucket – good for transporting items (including drinks and ice) to the beach and then for beach play 

 

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Stroller March Sunday!

 

Stroller March June 24th, 2018

 

NOTE DATE AND TIME CHANGE! Now Sunday @ 5pm!

 

RSVP HERE

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TOP 25 TODDLER TOYS & ACTIVITIES

 

Looking for ideas for Toddler Toys and Activities? Here ya go (Courtesy of great discussions on some of our PSP Toddler Groups). Not a member and are a parent living in Brooklyn? Join PSP here!

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ACTIVITIES

Use an old wallet stuffed with expired credit cards ­ take out and put back in, repeat indefinitely! 
Put some old toys out of sight - they'll usually show interest again after they’ve been on vacation for a week or two! 
A small wooden kitchen with doors
– used or new, this is evergreen
A hand broom, Swiffer sheet, and a cordless vacuum cleaner
Any and all Read-Aloud Board Books.
A small Jar with a Treat Inside.
A Baby Piano/Xylophone
Any Activity Table or Box that comes apart and has lots of “things” on it to move and make noise with!
Put Duplo Pieces (or anything that will fit!) into an Empty Tea Tin and take them out again!
A small Tea Set.
Make your own Toddler Busy Board - here are some great ideas.

 

SPECIFIC TOYS

Pockets of Learning Quiet Book – Indestructible books great for toddlers
Soft foam magnetic letters for the fridge
Skip, Hop & Explore Animal Car – Any “pull back” toy
Oball Rattle & Roll – or any Oball toy
Read Aloud Songs – listen to the song and follow along in the book
Magic Music Cubes
Peek-a-Boo Tunnels
Pop Toobs! – continue to be fun for years to come
Funky Moon Light with remote control! 
Fisher Price Laugh & Learn Piggy Bank

Melissa & Doug gets lots of shout outs!

Play Cleaning Supplies
Door Puzzle with magnets
Shape Sorters

 

 

Unlimited Vacation Time Pros and Cons

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Unlimited Vacation Time Pros and Cons Compilation 2018
 
I was wondering if anyone actually has experience with "unlimited vacation". When I first heard of it on this list, I thought it was too good to be true, and I was right, at least according to this article I read:
 
https://medium.com/@wwalser/unlimited-vacation-is-a-dark-perk-and-you-should-use-that-to-your-advantage-f30495f0df23>
 
I am wondering on average how many vacations people actually end up taking. Anyone dared to take more than 4 weeks (real ones, not work-vacations) and not fear retributions.
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I worked in multiple companies that has such policy. The actual vacation length and frequecy culture varied from company to company and was just not clearly stated, one had to kind ask around to see what's appropriate. It varied from 2 weeks in a row being a very long vacation to 3 weeks + 2 weeks later in the year of being totally fine + some single days here and there.
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Our company went from unlimited vacation to 20 days annually, partially because there was the perception that the policy was being violated, or at the very least being taken advantage of disproportionately. We're a relatively small team so it felt like fairness was paramount to avoiding intra-office mutiny :) 
 
I think the size of the team matters a lot, as well as cultural expectations (of course). We're part of an international company so in a sense it felt fair to mimic the parent company's vacation policy, but that doesn't really work in practice. 
 
I much prefer mandatory office closures for certain periods. My last employer had an office closure the week between Christmas and New Year's, and the thing I liked most about it is that people tended to actually travel during that time, and it felt very much like school when they returned because everyone would share stories from their time off. 
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Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. What I am still unclear about is how this unlimited vacation policy is beneficial to the employee? It is sold as something cool but so far I haven't heard that it adds value compared to the traditional way of stating plain and simple what the vacation days are. So when I am considering joining a company, I have not seen reasons to believe that as a selling point, but rather, just yet another thing to have to deal with within a company culture I don't know yet.
 
I must be missing something here
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I like set vacation policies better, in theory . Devil is in the details. I just switched firms and my former firm cut me a check for the two weeks I hadn’t used. That meant I didn’t have a pay gap for the time I took between jobs. Very generous of them and since i’m a lawyer in a firm it wasn’t necessary since I wasn’t working at full  capacity so I felt strange taking the accrued time (but didn’t complain). I’m in an area that gives 4 weeks of vacation and assumes we are working hard when not away. If I only got a week or two then I might prefer a more “honor” system type of vacation policy. And I wouldn’t abuse it. I don’t take 4 weeks off. I take about 2
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I'm currently interviewing and a few places mentioned their unlimited policy as a selling point. I would prefer a specific amount of days as well because you can get paid out when you leave. 
 
I generally take at least 4 weeks throughout the year because that's what I've had so far at all my jobs and most of that is to visit family overseas. 
 
If we got to the offer stage do you think this is something to bring up to let them know ahead of time? Since I won't know the culture and I don't want them to think I'm taking advantage once I accept. 
 
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My experience with unlimited vacation is:
 
1. I am on the work-life team of our organization. Research shows that overall people do not take advantage of the policy and in fact overall people take LESS time then if there was a set policy. People NEED vacation to recharge and be productive but there is anxiety around what is the right amount of vacation to take? Most people err on the side of caution and take less in order to fit in with the culture.
 
2. My husband's company had unlimited vacation. Most people were taking 2 weeks or none. Some of the high powered workahaulics in the org of course are in senior management and they were not taking vacation. Employees took their cue from them and were not utilizing vacation. Now they have 4 weeks PTO and everyone uses it. 
 
And just an FYI, many orgs KNOW that people will not use unlimited vacation but that it sounds great on paper to millennials for recruitment. 
 
I have 4 weeks paid and 1 week personal and the week off between Christmas and New Year's and I use every minute of my vacation and am a really productive employee  
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I’ve read analysis that agrees with the feedback above. Typically flexible vacation policies look good on paper but are less favorable for employees and save the employer money.
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We went from a policy of x number of days per year to unlimited. From a corporate perspective it was good because holding millions of dollars in cash is difficult. From an individual perspective (I looked at my days off) and I'm just at 4 weeks from before and after. I also happen to have taken two paternal leave, which for me was 8 weeks each. I had less time off before the policy, for reference.
 
It comes to how you manage the unlimited policy. I work for StreetEasy, part of Zillow Group, and I encourage people to take time off. Am appropriate work-life balance is encouraged.
 
I can't say that I've observed much of a difference, though I've seen that some are able to take 5 weeks now without much issue.
 
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I think it depends on the culture of the organization - at my company, people do indeed take 4 weeks or more of vacation. On top of the actual days off, this policy has affected the culture in that people feel comfortable working from home a lot. Now, when I consider other opportunities, if they offer 3 weeks of vacation, I feel very restricted. 
 
As for how an employer benefits, they do not have to pay for any days not taken and given that empirically, people do not take a ton of time off, that means they're saving money. 
 
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I second these comments (although I worked at the same company as her!). When I started there, I thought the unlimited PTO policy must be too good to be true, but in reality it turned out to be everything I would have hoped. It definitely varied by team but I'd say I took over 4 weeks every year, and one year was 6 weeks. They had a caveat that anything over 30 days in a calendar year was supposed to be approved by your manager's manager.
 
I'm sure it varied by team, but with a supportive and flexible manager (and after proving your value and working hard!) it was taken seriously and I never sensed any judgment. For a while I wouldn't even consider interviewing anywhere else that didn't have the same policy. At my new job, I have 3 weeks a year and the only way that works for me is with a very flexible culture around working remotely. 
 
I hope to see more companies move in this direction!
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Motherless Mother Resources

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Motherless Mother Resources

Park Slope Parents has a Motherless Mothers group:

If you are not yet a PSP memer join us here

If you're already a member and would like to be added email

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Website Resources

Theimaginarylibrary on Instagram is a 100 day project on grief and loss created by a woman who recently lost her mother.

Modern Loss is new website offering candid content, resources and community on loss and grief.

Articles shared by PSP members:

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/21/style/how-to-overcome-grief.html

http://therumpus.net/2011/03/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-67-the-black-arc-of-it/

https://alovelywoman.wordpress.com/2017/05/05/12-ideas-for-motherless-daughters-on-mothers-day/

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2016/10/23/opinion/sunday/children-dont-always-live.html

Why Grief Is A Series of Contractions and Expansions

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/art/read-youre-grieving/

http://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/letter-from-your-mother-mothers-day

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/03/we-dont-lose-our-mothers-reality-more-violent-that-that

http://www.scarymommy.com/overcoming-waves-grief-when-youre-motherless-mother/?utm_source=FB

 

Heat Wave in the City! Cheap (or free!) Activities To Do With Kids of All Ages in NYC during the summer

 

 

In this article:

Outdoors:

Parks & Playgrounds

Ferries, Transport & Islands

Pools

Beaches

Zoos

Indoors:

Museums & Libraries

Local Businesses

Useful Resources:

From NYC.gov: Beat the Heat

Outdoor Activities:

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Parks & Playgrounds

One parent says, "go to a Splash Pad or Playground with water features (the LeFrak Center in Prospect Park, Harmony Playground, Imagination Playground, Brooklyn Bridge Park)."

Other parks and playground suggestions:

Botanical Gardens - "is free on Tuesday and before noon on Saturday!"

Prospect Park -  "Pretend to be explorers in Prospect Park! As one parent shares: “One of my favorite free places to take my boys (2.5 and 4.5) is the woods in prospect park.  the whole east side of the park has random trails that are fun to get lost on.  I usually just let them lead the way and I follow.  Yes, sometimes we walk in circles but that's actually really fun when they realize that we've just come back to where we were.”

 Pier 6 -  “Pier 6 is awesome. Has super huge sand park, water area and climbing gyms.”

Battery Park City -  "I really like Battery Park City in the summer. There is so much there you can spend a whole day...the slides, the mini golf, the older playground with trapeze nets and interesting pedal horse toy, the poetry library, a cool Irish monument/installation, tribeca playground is well shaded and has water play and whole foods is a great place to eat. I always have a good time. Plus you are right on the water and can just feel the breeze."

Hudson south of 14th Street - “If in Manhattan, playground on Hudson just south of 14th street is small but has nice playground, water, and sand combination (and free star gazing--saw Hugh Jackson there)

Coney Island - HERE is an article from a local mom shared about her trip to Coney Island.

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Ferries, Transport & Islands

Staten Island Ferry - "The Staten Island ferry is free and, while not indoors, cool and comfortable, with great views. There's also the ferry to Ikea from lower Manhattan, or the bus to Ikea (Ikea has very cheap kids' meals)."

Governors Island -  "The ferry leaves from pier 6 in Brooklyn."

Roosevelt Island -  one parents recently took the tramway to Roosevelt Island and reported: “My daughter loved it.” This parent also shares that “no food is allowed at new FDR memorial.”

The Subway - "Also want to mention that for us, just riding the subways is a great way to stay cool and have fun.  My young son is completely entranced by the train and actually cries when we leave the subway platform."

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Public Pools 

Go HERE for read more tips PSP about local pools and Brooklyn and be sure to check the NYC Parks website HERE for opening and closing times (often city pools close for an hour in the afternoon for cleaning).

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 Beaches

Jacob Riis - "There's a whole food court complete with hammocks, tables with shade and bands/djs. A fun scene. Info here."

Brighton Beach - "I love Brighton Beach- easy drive, I always find parking, and have been taking my girl (now 8) almost since she was born"

Robert Moses Beach - "Robert Moses Beach is an hour away on Long Island but gorgeous and worth it. It had parking, showers, rentals for chairs and umbrellas and a concession stand. I just went Monday for the day. Sometimes a little traffic heading back of you leave between 5 and 6 but again worth it.

Rockaways (pictured) - "Easy access by the A train."

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Zoos & Acquariums

Wildlife Conservation Society -  "My best recommendation for your kid's ages is to get a membership from WCS  - a membership to them gets you free admission to all the zoos in NYC and the aquarium. The Aquarium has parking and it is on the coney island walkway so you have beach (not the nicest beach in the world but suitable for a little running around and splashing) and an amusement park, plus the baseball field all nearby. The aquariums and the zoos all have indoor and outdoor spaces so you can get out of the heat. You can even take the kids to a 3D movie at the zoos. We are also members of the Natural History Museum - rain or heat - its a great place to skip the lines, let the kids wander, and learn a thing or two - from dinosaurs to space this is the best kids museum in the city. Most the big museums in NY are priced for SUGGESTED DONATION so feel free to pay what you can afford not what they ask. But the reason you get a membership is to skip the lines - and its worth every penny."

Indoor Activities

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Museums & Libraries

Brooklyn Museum - Check out the free first Saturday events. One parent also suggestion the "Egyptian Collection at The Brooklyn Museum."

New York Transit Museum

Natural History Museum - “Go up to the Ross Terrace, where there are dancing fountains kids can play in.”

The Children's Museum of the Arts - "I am also a big fan of Childrens Museum of the Arts in Soho. It is not an affiliate of the above museums, so you pay per visit or can become a member. They have a very hands on art program. They also have free hands-on classes on Governor's Island (the calendar for governor's island - you get the ferry for free at the playground at the pier where Atlantic avenue ends)."

Brooklyn Children's Museum - "Get a membership to the Childrens Museums - now there are two Childrens museums in NYC - one is the Childrens Museum of Manhattan  and one is the Brooklyn Childrens Museum - they are both members of the same museum society so you should be able to buy one membership and go to Both BUT THAT IS NOT HOW IT WORKS - they have created a special exception so you cant use your card at both places BUT you can become a member of an affiliated museum - Like Port Discovery in Baltimore and then you get free admission to both NYC museums. You do not however get to skip the lines like members of the NYC museum can, and you dont get discounts on classes etc. But, it saves you money and gives you options. If you already had a membership in your old location, it may be valid here - I know we have used ours in Atlanta, Houston and CA."

Museum of Mathematics - 6th St btwn 5th/Madison - "Yes, many of the concepts would be lost on a toddler but it's an amazing place and there were so many fun things for my 18mo to do.  A plus is that Madison Square Park is just around the corner and on Tues/Thurs mornings (10:30AM) they host free kid concerts, art and more until Aug 8th.  We saw Recess Monkey last week and they were awesome! There's also a nice playground (w/overhead sprinkler!) in the park."

The Brooklyn Public Library - view what PSP members say about BPL here for the central branch, the Park Slope branch, and the Brooklyn Public Library Cafe!

More on PSP:  Kid Approved Art, Museum & Music Events 

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Local & Private Businesses

Ikea - “Sounds odd, but if you can get there, there's a lot of good playing to be had in the kids' room vignettes and toy department, and the food is super cheap.” and another parent also suggests it for being "Cheap! Ferry! Kids' meals in the restaurant are seriously cheap (and even free on Tuesdays)."  And as another parent says, "there is plenty of space to play (and there is a child play area) in the IKEA in Red Hook, and its lovely to have lunch at the Fairway in Red Hook and then walk along the water to one of the near by Parks."

 Toys-R-Us - "Toys R Us Times Square (has an indoor Ferris wheel and life-sized T-Rex dinosaur, in addition to a train table and gigantic Barbie dollhouse)."

 Barnes & Noble - "has story times during the week."

 Scholastic Store

World Financial Center - One parents describes how it "has lots of great restaurants and stores. Plus, they offer free arts programming."

 AMC Theaters - Go see a movie!  "AMC Theaters offer half-price movies before noon, every day. There are none in our neighborhood, but some in Manhattan are easily reachable."

Coffee shops and restaurants - see PSP reviews HERE for local restaurants and cafes. 

Further Reading:

Click HERE to read more reviews and recommendations on PSP about Play Spaces in Brooklyn

 Got a Teenager and looking for things to do?  Get some ideas HERE.

Photo credits: Staten Island photo via here: https://flic.kr/p/RJstjd, Rockaway photo via here: https://flic.kr/p/cgb9to, Natural History Museum via here: https://flic.kr/p/SaMwQp, all other photos via Pixabay

In this article:

Outdoors:

Parks & Playgrounds

Ferries, Transport & Islands

Pools

Beaches

Zoos

 

Indoors:

Museums & Libraries

Local Businesses

 

Useful Resources:

From NYC.gov: Beat the Heat

 

 

 

Outdoor Activities: 

 manhattan-1674404 640

Parks & Playgrounds

One parent says, "go to a Splash Pad or Playground with water features (the LeFrak Center in Prospect Park, Harmony Playground, Imagination Playground, Brooklyn Bridge Park)."

Other parks and playground suggestions:

Botanical Gardens - "is free on Tuesday and before noon on Saturday!"

Prospect Park -  "Pretend to be explorers in Prospect Park! As one parent shares: “One of my favorite free places to take my boys (2.5 and 4.5) is the woods in prospect park.  the whole east side of the park has random trails that are fun to get lost on.  I usually just let them lead the way and I follow.  Yes, sometimes we walk in circles but that's actually really fun when they realize that we've just come back to where we were.”

 Pier 6 -  “Pier 6 is awesome. Has super huge sand park, water area and climbing gyms.”

Battery Park City -  "I really like Battery Park City in the summer. There is so much there you can spend a whole day...the slides, the mini golf, the older playground with trapeze nets and interesting pedal horse toy, the poetry library, a cool Irish monument/installation, tribeca playground is well shaded and has water play and whole foods is a great place to eat. I always have a good time. Plus you are right on the water and can just feel the breeze."

Hudson south of 14th Street - “If in Manhattan, playground on Hudson just south of 14th street is small but has nice playground, water, and sand combination (and free star gazing--saw Hugh Jackson there)

Coney Island - HERE is an article from a local mom shared about her trip to Coney Island.

 

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Ferries, Transport & Islands

Staten Island Ferry - "The Staten Island ferry is free and, while not indoors, cool and comfortable, with great views. There's also the ferry to Ikea from lower Manhattan, or the bus to Ikea (Ikea has very cheap kids' meals)."

Governors Island -  "The ferry leaves from pier 6 in Brooklyn."

Roosevelt Island -  one parents recently took the tramway to Roosevelt Island and reported: “My daughter loved it.” This parent also shares that “no food is allowed at new FDR memorial.”

The Subway - "Also want to mention that for us, just riding the subways is a great way to stay cool and have fun.  My young son is completely entranced by the train and actually cries when we leave the subway platform."

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Public Pools 

Go HERE for read more tips PSP about local pools and Brooklyn and be sure to check the NYC Parks website HERE for opening and closing times (often city pools close for an hour in the afternoon for cleaning).

 

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 Beaches

Jacob Riis - "There's a whole food court complete with hammocks, tables with shade and bands/djs. A fun scene. Info here."

Brighton Beach - "I love Brighton Beach- easy drive, I always find parking, and have been taking my girl (now 8) almost since she was born"

Robert Moses Beach - "Robert Moses Beach is an hour away on Long Island but gorgeous and worth it. It had parking, showers, rentals for chairs and umbrellas and a concession stand. I just went Monday for the day. Sometimes a little traffic heading back of you leave between 5 and 6 but again worth it.

Rockaways (pictured) - "Easy access by the A train."

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Zoos & Acquariums

Wildlife Conservation Society -  "My best recommendation for your kid's ages is to get a membership from WCS  - a membership to them gets you free admission to all the zoos in NYC and the aquarium. The Aquarium has parking and it is on the coney island walkway so you have beach (not the nicest beach in the world but suitable for a little running around and splashing) and an amusement park, plus the baseball field all nearby. The aquariums and the zoos all have indoor and outdoor spaces so you can get out of the heat. You can even take the kids to a 3D movie at the zoos. We are also members of the Natural History Museum - rain or heat - its a great place to skip the lines, let the kids wander, and learn a thing or two - from dinosaurs to space this is the best kids museum in the city. Most the big museums in NY are priced for SUGGESTED DONATION so feel free to pay what you can afford not what they ask. But the reason you get a membership is to skip the lines - and its worth every penny."

 

Indoor Activities 

 

natural-history-museum 

Museums & Libraries

Brooklyn Museum - Check out the free first Saturday events. One parent also suggestion the "Egyptian Collection at The Brooklyn Museum."

New York Transit Museum

Natural History Museum - “Go up to the Ross Terrace, where there are dancing fountains kids can play in.”

The Children's Museum of the Arts - "I am also a big fan of Childrens Museum of the Arts in Soho. It is not an affiliate of the above museums, so you pay per visit or can become a member. They have a very hands on art program. They also have free hands-on classes on Governor's Island (the calendar for governor's island - you get the ferry for free at the playground at the pier where Atlantic avenue ends)."

Brooklyn Children's Museum - "Get a membership to the Childrens Museums - now there are two Childrens museums in NYC - one is the Childrens Museum of Manhattan  and one is the Brooklyn Childrens Museum - they are both members of the same museum society so you should be able to buy one membership and go to Both BUT THAT IS NOT HOW IT WORKS - they have created a special exception so you cant use your card at both places BUT you can become a member of an affiliated museum - Like Port Discovery in Baltimore and then you get free admission to both NYC museums. You do not however get to skip the lines like members of the NYC museum can, and you dont get discounts on classes etc. But, it saves you money and gives you options. If you already had a membership in your old location, it may be valid here - I know we have used ours in Atlanta, Houston and CA."

Museum of Mathematics - 6th St btwn 5th/Madison - "Yes, many of the concepts would be lost on a toddler but it's an amazing place and there were so many fun things for my 18mo to do.  A plus is that Madison Square Park is just around the corner and on Tues/Thurs mornings (10:30AM) they host free kid concerts, art and more until Aug 8th.  We saw Recess Monkey last week and they were awesome! There's also a nice playground (w/overhead sprinkler!) in the park."

The Brooklyn Public Library - view what PSP members say about BPL here for the central branch, the Park Slope branch, and the Brooklyn Public Library Cafe!

More on PSP:  Kid Approved Art, Museum & Music Events 

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Local & Private Businesses

Ikea - “Sounds odd, but if you can get there, there's a lot of good playing to be had in the kids' room vignettes and toy department, and the food is super cheap.” and another parent also suggests it for being "Cheap! Ferry! Kids' meals in the restaurant are seriously cheap (and even free on Tuesdays)."  And as another parent says, "there is plenty of space to play (and there is a child play area) in the IKEA in Red Hook, and its lovely to have lunch at the Fairway in Red Hook and then walk along the water to one of the near by Parks."

 Toys-R-Us - "Toys R Us Times Square (has an indoor Ferris wheel and life-sized T-Rex dinosaur, in addition to a train table and gigantic Barbie dollhouse)."

 Barnes & Noble - "has story times during the week."

 Scholastic Store

World Financial Center - One parents describes how it "has lots of great restaurants and stores. Plus, they offer free arts programming."

 AMC Theaters - Go see a movie!  "AMC Theaters offer half-price movies before noon, every day. There are none in our neighborhood, but some in Manhattan are easily reachable."

Coffee shops and restaurants - see PSP reviews HERE for local restaurants and cafes. 

 

Further Reading:

Click HERE to read more reviews and recommendations on PSP about Play Spaces in Brooklyn

 Got a Teenager and looking for things to do?  Get some ideas HERE.

 

Photo credits: Staten Island photo via here: https://flic.kr/p/RJstjd, Rockaway photo via here: https://flic.kr/p/cgb9to, Natural History Museum via here: https://flic.kr/p/SaMwQp, all other photos via Pixabay

 

How to End the Summer with a Splash

We’ve got a few more weeks of summer; let’s make it the best of it! Here are some ideas to make it great.

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2018 Holiday Tips Survey: The Results are IN!

Here are the key findings from the 2018, 7th annual Park Slope Parents Holiday Tips Survey in which Brooklyn residents report their upcoming end of year gifts to service providers, nannies, and teachers.

 

 

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The Park Slope Parents Gratitude Jar

 

 

 

The Park Slope Parents' Gratitude Jar overflowed in 2018!

We wanted to take a minute to thank the community and some of our great members individually for a FABULOUS 2018. We've got another year of spirit and fun in store for our community in 2019!

JOIN US!  If you're not a member yet, let this gratitude list help you decide if you want to be part of our vibrant community!

What are we grateful for? 

PSP Members!

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2019 Martin Luther King Day of Service Events

MLK Day

Events, education, movies and playlists related to Martin Luther King's Birthday, January 21st, 2019. 


Events

MLK Day By The Park Event
Monday, January 21st
11:00am - 2:00pm
Polo Cafe, 883 8th Avenue
The program is free and open to the public with an emphasis on children.  We are looking to highlight the human struggle and equality of ALL people as Dr. King spoke about. Guest speakers, books, and participants will create a big mural.


MLK Day at BCM - I Have a Dream Celebration
Monday, January 21st
10:00am - 5:00pm
Brooklyn Children’s Museum, 145 Brooklyn Ave (At St Marks Avenue), Brooklyn, NY
A celebration of the life and legacy of civil rights leader, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. A full schedule of activities will soon be released on the Facebook event page.

Repair the World - Family Meal Packaging for Brooklyn Community
Monday, January 21st
10:00am - 11:30am
Repair the World NYC, 808 Nostrand Ave, Brooklyn, NY
Kids and parents from all over New York will come together to prepare and package about 3,750 meals per shift to be delivered throughout the Brooklyn community. See website for other MLK volunteer opportunities.

MLK Day of Service at Park Slope Jewish Center
Sunday, January 20th
10:30am - 2:00pm
Park Slope Jewish Center, 1320 8th Ave, Brooklyn, NY (corner 14th St.)
Projects and activities for ALL ages: cooking, soup-kit and PB&J assembly lines, book drive, clothing drive, advocacy, arts/crafts, knitting, etc., to benefit Brooklyn Legal Aid, the Brooklyn Family Justice Center, CHIPS, God's Love We Deliver, HIAS, and more. Stories and songs for preschoolers starting 10:30am.

BAM 33rd Annual Brooklyn Tribute to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Monday, January 21st
10:30am - 1:30 pm
Artists, activists, civic leaders, and community members come together in the BAM Howard Gilman Opera House to honor the legacy and share the dream of Dr. King. This event is free and sign-language-interpreted.
Peter Jay Sharp Building, 30 Lafayette Avenue, Brooklyn, NY

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Storytelling and Music Event
Mon Jan 21, 2019
11:00am to 3:00pm
Grace Reformed Church, 1800 Bedford Avenue (corner of Bedford and Lincoln Rd.)
Free
This volunteer-run event includes a reading of Show Way by award-winning Brooklyn author Jacqueline Woodson about Underground Railroad, as well as music performances, and activities and crafts for children, and a complimentary lunch at noon. Greenlight Bookstore is a partner on this event.

 Little Essentials MLK Family Volunteering Day
Monday, January 21st
10:00am - 12:00pm or 2:00pm - 4:00pm
Basement of Tribeca Pediatrics, 15 Warren St, New York, NY
Parents can volunteer at the Tribeca warehouse with their children (over 10 years old) or help sort and organize donations to go to needy families.
Due to limited space, 2 time slots are offered and each accommodates 10 people total. 
Please use the link to fill out the volunteer form and your participation will be confirmed via email. 
For questions, email Zakiyyah at   or call 646-850-3611.

Freedom Songs & Stories
Monday, January 21st
12:00pm - 4:00pm
Lefferts Historic House in Prospect Park, 101 East Dr, Brooklyn, NY
Masterful storyteller, Tammy Hall, will be telling diverse tales from around the world creating a rich, Martin Luther King Jr. Day experience for all.
(Free, but space is limited. The link to register can be found on the website)
 

Kid friendly movies:

  • Our Friend, Martin (can be found on youtube)
  • Ruby Bridges
  • The Watsons go to Birmingham
  • The Color of Friendship
  • And the Children Shall Lead (Ages 9+)
  • Hidden Figures (Ages 10+)
  • Remember the Titans
  • Selma
  • Hairspray
  • 42 (Biopic about Jackie Robinson)
     

 Educational Videos on YouTube:

The Life of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. - MLK Day! (Animated)
History of the Civil Rights Movement
The Story of Martin Luther King Jr. by Kid President
Civil Rights and the 1950s: Crash Course US History #39

 

As our own Nancy McDermott says in her PSP blog post The Arch of the Moral Universe: MLK Day:

Let us remember and believe that "The arch of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward Justice". . Let us remind ourselves and tell our children how much has changed --still changing since the days when Martin Luther King's speeches sent chills down the spine of a nation. Most of all, let us take heart in the fact that great and just ideas endure in history and that we can make them a reality. Martin Luther King understood this better than anyone.

 

 

Resources for Cancer Warriors

 

From support groups, organizations, and websites dedicated to coping with cancer, here are resources to be a warrior!

NOTE: We also have a Cancer Goddesses group on Park Slope Parents. If you're not a member yet, JOIN HERE. If you are already a member, send us an email at .

 

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Mentoring Resources

1. Imerman Angels. “Having a mentor from Imerman Angels was so helpful - I met someone who was a survivor of the same kind of cancer that I have and she ended up becoming a very close friend. She also encouraged me to communicate my needs to my family and friends because otherwise they often would not intuit them - she was quite right.”

Support Resources

1. Stupid Cancer. “Stupid Cancer is a cancer support group for young adults - nationwide with a lot of tools and events.”

2. Cancer101. “Check out Cancer101. It was created to help the newly diagnosed manage the impact of the disease and help them navigate through the questions that they have and the resources available.”

3. Facebook. “Facebook is a good start. There are FB online communities that support patients suffering from just about everything. Throughout that community you can ask and find local in-person groups and other resources. NYS has organizations like Parent to Parent that are amazing resources for families. NJ should have non-profit organizations that will help with mental health, peer support, transportation and many other services.”

4. Gilda's Club. “Gilda’s Club is an incredible resource offering free support for cancer patients and their families. All the branches throughout the US operate independently you will have to find one close to you. The NYC branch is very active.”

5.Summer Hope Foundation. “Summer hope does "hope baskets" that are personalized baskets intended to bring joy to people with cancer. They are free and really, really nice.”

6. Friend’s Health Connection. “A non-profit called Friend’s Health Connection is based in NJ and the idea is to connect sick patients with fellow patients who are similar age, ailment, gender etc. who they can relate to since they are both sharing similar experiences.”

7. Unconditional Healing. Unconditional healing is essentially about finding sanity, compassion, and connection during adversity. The tendency during health crises is to isolate and to live in your head, always problem-solving and Catastrophizing. This is the website to the group.

8. Stages of the Cancer Journey:  A great overview of the different stages of feelings, family communication and outcomes of the cancer process. 

9. Mary’s Place By the Sea It’s a fabulous organization that generously welcomes women with any form of cancer to their gorgeous house in Ocean Grove, NJ (one block from the beach). You can go for a day or up to 2 nights, fed delicious vegan meals, and partake in their many services (massage, reiki, nutritional counseling, meditation, yoga, etc)...all for FREE! Highly recommend to any woman newly diagnosed, currently in treatment, or up to 1 year post treatment as that is their guideline. Special place to spend time to heal: mentally, physically, and spiritually.




Other Resources on Park Slope Parents

1. Resources to talk to a child or teen about cancer

2. Support Groups for Coping with Cancer

3. How a child's class can help a student sick with cancer

 

Diet Resources/Advice

1. Supplements. “I would not recommend any supplements while under treatment unless cleared by your doctors. Find someone who’s an expert at side effects from chemo and radiation. For supplemental support you might try finding a naturopath doctor who specializes in cancer treatment. They would work with your doctors (if the oncology doctors are willing) to support with nutrition, herbs etc. In my experience it is out of pocket but perhaps they could work out a payment plan (or you could gift a couple of sessions?) There are a lot of foods patients can’t tolerate while undergoing chemo so be patient but persistent. This is where an expert comes in because they know what to try and what will not interfere with medication.”

“Decreased appetite is a hallmark of chemotherapy as is weight loss. I recommend voicing concerns about it to the nurses at the infusion center, they should have a dietician on staff that would be able to help and/or be able to help themselves. That being said, protein supplements are wonderful, simple extremely nutritious foods, easy to chew and not overly fragrant are helpful. Ensure is frequently given in the hospital. If decreased appetite continues to be an issue look into/ask your provider about Miranol, it is an appetite stimulant frequently prescribed to Oncology pts. Beef liver pills are amazing as well, they aren’t given in the hospital but can help with anemia.”

“Medical marijuana is supposed to be the most effective treatment for appetite in cancer patients and I believe there are other potential benefits that are probably worth researching. However, I know marijuana is approved as a treatment for leukemia in the state of New Jersey and shouldn't be discounted.”


2. Herbs. “If you want to go in the herbal direction, there is a class of plants called "nourishing" (nettles and red clover are two great ones). They are full of protein and easy on the system. You can make a medicinal strength tea that steeps overnight and you sip them all day instead of water. Here's a link to instructions from a very well-respected herbalist”


3. Nutrition Drinks+. “I'd say yes, anything to get calories. My son lost so much weight early on that the hospital started giving him nutritional drinks until he couldn't stomach them anymore.  Think high fat, high nutrient foods like avocados, rice pudding, ice cream, milk shakes, nuts and nut butters, adding butter and cream to foods.”

 “I saw a nutritionist for weight gain and was told that the Boost Plus has the highest calories and was told that these are the easier/most painless nutritional drinks to drink because they are not too filling.”


4. Corrine Furnari. “If you can afford to visit Corrine Furnari in the city, I highly recommend her for nutritional information. She will also tell you it's important to supplement with organic milk whey (Warrior Whey) because it helps to keep mass on while also fighting cancer.”


5. Milk. “We learned that milk and lactose-based food can be very bad as milk makes mouth sores that some people get from chemo much worse.”

 

Miscellaneous Advice and Resources

1.Nancy Keene. “Nancy Keene is an excellent resource for leukemia information, and her book 'Childhood Leukemia: A Guide for Families, Friends, and Caregivers' is particularly helpful in covering pretty much any aspect of the illness and treatment.”


2. American Cancer Society. “There are some interesting resources on the American Cancer Society website.”


3. The Truth About Cancer. “Watch The Truth About Cancer. It's incredibly informative, and chock full of information, and a must watch for anyone thinking about cancer.”


4. Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. “I've watched the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society really grow so I'd start with them. They seem to have a support line too. There is so much that is out of your control as a cancer patient and it’s really hard on young adults who are trying to find their own identity, etc.”


5. Advice. “1. Stay away from the internet. The worst thing my I did was to look there. Now is not the time to look there, there will be time to look and research web but not now! 2. Let someone close deal with the doctor appointments. You need time to digest your diagnosis you don't want to be stressed about the appointments. 3. Let other people in your family help, let them cook and let them clean, they need it and you need it. 4. If you have children let other people help you with them. 5. Talk to someone who went through it to help navigate your feelings and fears. 6. Ask for help 7. Sleep and, if you need to, take pills to help you with your anxiety 8. It is rough...it is rough on everybody in your family. Take a deep breath and then another one and then another one...one at the time."

6. Jeannine Walston. "An interesting article on the stages of cancer. I thought the information surrounding the diagnosis was particularly helpful. I know some of these things rang true for me." 

 

 

Valentine's Day is coming! Here's how to pamper the parents in your life!

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Treat yourself or the Valentine in your life with these Park Slope Parents Membership Discounts!

Membership Discounts: Pampered Parent

Accurate Pharmacy
Arts Life Creativity Coaching
awaken massageRite - Jenny Beth Miller, LMT
Aynsley Kirshenbaum Fitness Nutrition Wellness
Balanced Lifestyle - Paul McCarthy
Bitty Kneads, LLC (Sara Kellner Tsulis)
Blitz Facial Bar
Brooklyn Acupuncture
Brooklyn Parent Therapy
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CLT Wellness - Carolyn Tallents
Creative Hair Spa
Dan Rindler, Feldenkrais Practitioner
Dr. Andrea Auerbach
Dr. Marina Klotsman - Dynasty Pediatrics
Drs. Erin O'Daniel & James Cardo - Flower of Life Chiropractic
EarthySoul
Energetic Empowerment
Feel Integrated - Jin Shin Jyutsu® and Therapeutic Massage
Fringe Salon Brooklyn
Garden Acupuncture, PC
Gregg Bromberg LMT
Healing Heart Acupuncture - Mary Hart
Healing Motion Physical Therapy - Dr. Jonathan Locitzer
Helping Bodies Heal
Holistic Health for You - Dr. Emanuel Gellin M.D./ Jeffrey Goodman N.D.
Holistic Health Fusion
Integrated Bodywork Center of Brooklyn - Sarah Lazarus
Integrative Bodywork Eileen Thomas, LMT
Integrative Health NYC - Deborah Barbiere, PsyD, LAc, MSTOM
Intune Massage Therapy
Isabella Freedman Jewish Retreat Center
Jeanene Mack
Jocelyn Kaye Stylist & Personal Shopper
Karma Massage - Karen Clifton Mahoney
Lice Busters
Lice Free Noggins
Lift / Next Level Floats
Lissette Corso Hair Artistry
Local Roots Hair Salon
Lumena Beauty Lounge
Massage and Movement with Shakti Andrea Smith, LMT
Maya Ray
Milkmade Breastfeeding Support
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Nicki Silberman, PT, PC
Nicole Falloon, LMT
NYC Adventure Moms
Pamela Rose Beauty
Park Optics - Dr. Mitch Wilkinson
Parlor Hair Salon
Priority Fitness
PROnatal Fitness
Rebecca Kirkwood Beauty
Re-color the Palate - Ashley Spivak
Salon 718
Scott Lyons, Cranio-Sacral Therapy
Slope Nutrition
Slope Wellness
Smart Hair Studio
Sound & Vibration Therapy - Donna Vestuti
Sparkes Wellness
Spread the Health Now - Stacey Capobianco
The Bird House
The Modern Chemist
Tiga Salon
Tres Belle Spa
Two Tiger Acupuncture
Urban Wellness Park Slope
Vive
Zade SalonSpa

 

Strengthening Relationships: Valentine's Day Ideas

VALENTINE'S DAY IS COMING

Parenting puts a lot of pressure on a relationship, even a good one. With this in mind, here’s a short list of things to do to strengthen relationships. Make these things priorities starting this Valentine's Day (if you haven't already)!

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Date Night: If you can swing it, get out alone with your partner.  There are good reviews of Date Night Restaurants on the Park Slope Parents website.

Recharge: Send your partner out to get recharged, or recharge yourself. The Pampered Parent recommendations page has massage therapists and other services to help. These folks give PSP discounts on pampered parent services. It doesn’t have to cost a lot.  For dads, getting out and playing poker, going to Dad 411, or meeting up with other dads in your monthly or seasonal group are great ways to recharge. We also have an article on avoiding Parental Burnout .

Consider Therapy. This can be hard when you have limited time and young kids, but it can save a marriage. We have this list of Couple’s Therapists and Counseling. If you’ve got issues that start with you, or if your partner doesn’t want to attend, consider going to individual therapy

Read books about Relationship Resilience and do workbooks together. Parenting can stress relationships.  The big names in couple’s therapy right now are John Gottman (The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work) and Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight and Emotionally Focused Therapy) but don’t discount oldies but goodies like Harvell Hendrix (Getting the Love You Want, Imago Therapy) and simplified but useful constructs like Gary Chapman (The 5 Languages of Love are: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch; quiz here.)  

Cuddle without expectation of sex. Be explicit that you just want to cuddle (and mean it). 

Have sex.  Schedule it if you need to. I’ve talked to many moms who feel like sex was a hassle, but they were always glad they did it afterward. If you’re co-sleeping, try a new place like a shower with the lights off. (We started a Sex after Kids Survey years ago; a Babeland/Park Slope Parents initiative that we never followed through with—maybe we need to dust that off!)

Practice Gratitude, especially with your partner. Have a Gratitude Jar (or text each other 3 things each day). Write 3 things that you are grateful for each day and re-visit them regularly. Especially tell each other what you appreciate about them.

Take charge when your partner needs a break. One friend said that the best thing her husband did was to put a beer in her coat pocket and tell her to go take a walk in the park when she was totally overwhelmed. 

Do more little things. Texts for no reason, flowers just because, notes on the bathroom mirror, phone calls.  Little things can do a lot to help a relationship. Put the dishes away, fold the laundry, offer to make dinner… do things that aren’t typically “your” tasks. 

Laugh more. Surround yourself with more comedy and less tragedy (including your steaming binges).  Share funny jokes and cartoons and reflect on funny times together. 

Practice Active Listening. Remember, it’s NOT about the nail.  This takes energy and time.

Watch things together. Co-viewing creates a shared history that helps couple's bond. 

This is a snapshot of some of the things that I discuss in my NYU Interpersonal Communication graduate class. 

So that’s some relationship help for ya. We also have this article: Wisdom/support for serious marital rough patch

Dr. Susan Fox

Ph. D. 1994, UCSB, currently NYU Adjunct

Founder, Park Slope Parents

 

Time and Sanity Saving Tips for Parents

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Do you ever feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day? Trying to balance cooking, cleaning, and parenting in general is not an easy task. The good news is that you are not alone! The Park Slope Parents Working Moms group had a discussion of how to make life less hectic that they have found to help stave off the insanity. We have compiled the helpful tips and advice on how to balance it all while still finding time for yourself.

 

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2019 SIPPY TIPS FROM THE PSP HIVE

 

SIP SIP HOORAY!  Someone asked fellow members for recommendations of the best sippy cup. Here are the top winners!

 

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  1. Munchkin Click Lock Weighted Straw Cup – Recommended by the parent of an 8-month-old who is holding and drinking from it by themselves. This cup is described as leak-proof and the weighted straw allows for tipping while drinking.

  2. Think Baby Thinkster Straw Bottle – Another favorite brand with a spill-proof straw that doesn’t leak in bags. They will also donate 10% of the profit to a foundation of your choosing.

  3. Pura Kika Straw Bottle – A plastic-free bottle that grows with your kid. This bottle was recommended by a parent who has had the same bottle for 3 years!

  4. OXO Tot Transitions Straw Cup with Removable Handles – Spill-proof and leak-proof for easy drinking.

  5. Philips Avent My Bendy Straw Cup – A short straw bottle that promotes natural swallowing.

  6. The First Years Take & Toss Spill-Proof Straw Cups – A pretty indestructible, easy to clean cup that a 3-year-old can’t even get the lid off of. However, these cups were not made for transportation as they will leak around the straw when thrown in a bag.

  7. Munchkin Sippy and Straw Lids for Miracle 360 Cups & Munchkin Miracle 360 Trainer Cup – This combination also came recommended and helps with the transition to straw and open cups.

 

This Saturday-- The Park Slope Parents Members Only Kids Clothing, Gear, and Maternity Swap

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When: Saturday, March 2nd, 2019
Time: 10:00AM - 12:30PM
Where: All Saints Church 463A 7th Street, entrance on 7th Street (the Park Slope Senior Center)

How much and details:

  • $5.00/member - only payable at the door
  • You must be a PSP member (we will be checking at the door). Not a PSP member?

 

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Park Slope Parents Weekly Roundup!

PSP Events for this week: Highlights from March 11th-16th! 

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See our FULL CALENDER

 

 

PSP Tabletop Game NightPSP Tabletop Game Night

Tuesday, March 12th
Time: 7:00pm - 11:00pm
Where: The Douglass, 149 4th Avenue
 

Wills & Estate Planning Workshop

Wednesday, March 13th
Bill Cahill calms your nerves and tells you how to begin!
Time: 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Time: 6:30pm - 8:00pm, 336 3rd Street
Cost: $20.00, no refunds
  

 

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The Proud Tree - Giving with Boundaries

There is a debate about the story "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein. Should people be self-less and give and give or have boundaries?  Katie Deutsch has written this response to Shel's book from the perspective that perhaps it's okay to set boundaries and not give until you have nothing left.

 

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The Proud Tree - Giving with Boundaries

Written by Katie Deutsch, A response to Shel Silverstein

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There once was a Tree and she loved a Boy.
The Boy gathered her leaves, made crowns to wear, and play king of the forest.
He climbed her branches, ate her apples, and the Tree was happy.

But the Boy grew older and visited less often.
One day the Boy came back and the Tree said, ‘Come boy, climb up my branches.’
The Boy wasn't having it, ‘I don’t want to climb your branches, I need money, I want to sell your apples at the market.’
The Tree thought about this for a moment. “Boy, I love to make you happy, and my apples are delicious. Take this harvest and in the spring I’ll grow more."
The Boy gathered all the apples from the Tree, and made a pretty penny at the market.

Years passed, and the Boy came back to the Tree, and the Tree was happy to see her friend. “Boy, come taste my delicious apples!”
But the Boy was somber, “I don’t want your apples, I need a house for a family.”
“I don’t have anything to help with that,” sighed the tree.
The Boy blinked a few times and gulped. “You could give me your branches, that way I could build a house.”
The Tree was shocked. These branches grew her delicious apples, were the home of countless birds and squirrels. Strong and plentiful for all children to climb.
“No. You are being selfish, and I don’t like the assumption that you own my branches to do whatever you wish.”
The Boy shrugged and walked away sheepishly.

 

Many years later, the Boy came back.
“What is wrong Boy, you look so sad! Come sit and talk to me, share your problems.”
The Boy started to cry, “I am so sick of the world. It is so hard and it always challenges me. I wish I had a boat, so I could sail away and find peace. Give me your trunk so I can find an escape.”
Once again, the Tree was surprised and sharply spoke to the Boy, “The world will always challenge you, it doesn’t stop. And running away won’t solve your problems, only create new ones. And besides, your family needs your love and support.”
The Boy grew angry, threw up his hands, stomped away from the tree and disappeared.

More years passed, and the Boy came to visit once more, but this time he was an old man. The Tree welcomed him with open branches, calling out, “Hello old friend, it has been a long time.”
The Boy looked up at the beautiful apples, the majesty of her branches, marveled at her strong trunk and weeped, “Thank you for your strength, and thank you for your wisdom. I wanted everyone to bend to my will, but life doesn’t work that way.”
The Tree beamed with gratitude, “Yes, Boy, true friendship and love are built on boundaries. I’m glad you found peace. Come, sit down and rest."

 

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Copyright 2019 by Katie Deutsch

Posted with permission by Katie Deutsch

 

 

Spring is Here! Find Bunny and Earth Events

GREAT events coming up for bunny-ears-friendly Easter, Passover, and Springtime events. 

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Sunday, April 14th, 2019
 
Green Meadows Farm Brooklyn Easter Egg Hunt
Aviator Sports and Events Center, 3159 Flatbush Avenue
10:00am - 4:00pm (Saturday too!)
This eggs-cellent event will include an egg hunt, photos with Whiskers the Easter Bunny, new tractors to sit on, a hayride, bunny barn, corn box, an playgrounds! Tickets are $9.00 and can be purchased online. Be sure to bring your Easter basket and your bunny smiles! Easter baskets, pony rides, and animal feed will all be available for an extra fee.
 
Brooklyn Bark: Portrait with the Bunny & Sidewalk Carnival
Sean Casey Animal Shelter, 153 East 3rd Street (Windsor Terrace)
11:00am - 4:00pm
An afternoon of family fun for kids AND pups. There will be games, crafts, face painting, refreshments, a prize wheel, dog treats and cotton candy. You can also have your kid or canine photographed with the Easter Bunny. The event is free and Bunny photos are by donation or you can purchase a timed photo ticket online. All proceeds go to Sean Casey Animal Rescue.
 

 

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Second Chance Toys

Earth Day is April 22nd and we have a way to SAVE THE PLANET ONE TOY AT A TIME!  Second Chance Toys rescues gently used toys for children in need.

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Kidville Park Slope

808 Union Street, Brooklyn

April 15th – 20th, 2019

Monday- Friday, 9am – 6pm

Saturday 9:15am – 3:30pm

 

Over the past 15 years Park Slope Parents has supported drives for Toys for Tots , Hurricane Sandy Relief, LGBTQ teens in crisis, CHiPS food drives, Little Essentials baby/toddler clothing/gear drive and much more. 

 

Spring in the Slope: 2019 Edition

Spring has sprung in Brooklyn! 

Some of the prettiest trees are peppered through NYC, along with PSP favorites Green-wood Cemetery and Brooklyn Botanic Garden.

The PSP Gardening Group is meeting next Saturday, May 4th, for a Plant and Pot Swap

ENJOY!

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Cherry Blossoms on 10th Street near 7th Avenue.

 

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Tulips on 3rd Street near 7th Avenue. 

 

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A newly planted Carroll Gardens window box.

 

 

 

Stoop Sales, Block Parties, & Bikes! The PSP Guide to Summer Fun

 

Summer is here and it's time for three of our favorite Brooklyn traditions: Stoop Sales, Block Parties, and Bike Rides.

Here is some great wisdom on all three of those perennial BK topics. Have fun! Sell some stuff! Boogie down your block! Enjoy the breeze on your back as you bike with your BFFs. 

STOOP SALE INFO: 

Check out these informative guides to making stoop sale exchanges GREAT:
- The PSP Guide to buying great stuff at Stoop Sales.
- The PSP Guide to hosting a Stoop Sale.

Email your Stoop Sale info to the on Thursday and we'll post it, and also pull together a summary to send out to folks - weather willing of course.

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BLOCK PARTY INFO:

Check out different ways to make your BLOCK PARTY GREAT! This page also includes fun ideas for kids at block parties. If you give us a heads up, Park Slope Parents will try to stop by with some Giant Bubbles! Email

 

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LGBTQ+ Family Friendly Events-- 2019 edition

Here are our picks for Family Friendly PRIDE Events for June 2019

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Kidding Around Family Pride Picnic

When: Saturday, June 29, 10am - 1pm

Where: On the High Line (16th Street to Gansevoort Street)

How Much: Free (Guests must register in advance here https://www.eventbrite.com/e/kidding-around-family-pride-picnic-tickets-59243127790

What: A celebration of LGBTQ+ families and Pride through a summer festival with carnival-style games, face painting, a musical performance, and much more.

Youth Pride

When: Saturday, June 29, 10am - 1pm

Where: Central Park’s SummerStage

How Much: Free for the public under 21. There is a $10 registration fee for individuals 21+ (Guests please register in advance here https://2019-worldpride-stonewall50.nycpride.org/events/youth-pride/ )

What: A chance for young people to celebrate NYC Pride with their friends. Interactive Experiences, games and performances from Ava Max, DJ Nhandi, Deetranda, and many more!

 

 

 

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Reducing Plastic in Our Lives!

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Here is some great advice for reducing plastic in our lives from PSP Members. Please feel free to email us with more ideas and we’ll add to this article!

Health/Lifestyle

  • Switch from body/facial wash to bar soap.handmade-1139554 640
  • Use bar conditioner on your hair - mine has never looked better. 
  • Use Tom’s bar soap for the kids.
  • Buy plastic/packaging-free soaps at Lush
  • We buy gallon bottles of California Baby hand soap and refill smaller bottles around the house.
  • Switch to toilet paper that’s rated A on the NRDC list
  • Find eco-friendly toilet paper and tissues: https://us.whogivesacrap.org
  • Use Bamboo Toothbrushes
  • For those who get their period, Thinx underwear are amazing.
  • Switch to cloth napkins.

 

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The 2019 Nanny Survey Results are In!

The 2019 data is here! PSP conducted its 7th survey of employers who employ a nanny. These results are based on 870 parents from Brooklyn who employ live-out nannies who are not part of a nanny share.

 

IMPORTANT FINDINGS:

PAY**

$18.65 per hour for 1 child ($1.60 more than 2017)
$19.94 per hour for 2 children ($1.61 more than 2017)

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Part-time nannies continue to make a higher hourly rate than a full-time nannies, paying a premium for fewer hours:
$19.78 per hour for 10-20 hours
$18.77 per hour for 40-50 hours

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TIME OFF:

The average agreed upon days off is 13 days, while the reported days actually received is 21 days. (The vast majority of nannies are paid for all 21 days they receive off.)
Seven in ten (70%) let their nanny schedule time off at the nanny's discretion (something for which PSP advocates.)

RAISES & BONUSES:
The most common first year annual increase is $1 per hour.
Giving end of year bonuses continues to be standard, with 1 week's pay given the most common amount.
The average bump in pay when a second child arrives is $2 per hour. 

 

  • Data includes nannies paid on and off the books. 
  • Rates do NOT reflect Nanny Shares where a nanny takes care of kids from 2 families at the same time. 

 

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2019 Rosh Hashanah & High Holiday Events

Park Slope Jewish Center

PSJC welcomes you and your family to join us for our youth and family services on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur! Our open tent (literally!) service are open to the community and welcome your entire family from toddlers to teens a place to celebrate with singing, stories, and the shofar.  For service descriptions and times for all of our options from toddlers to teens to family services, please visit the websites below. Services are all located at 1320 8th Avenue, at the corner of 8th Avenue and 14th Street in Park Slope.
Rosh Hashanah, September 30th & October 1st
https://www.psjc.org/event/rosh-hashanah-youth--family-services1.html

Yom Kippur, October 9th
https://www.psjc.org/event/yom-kippur-youth--family-services1.html
 Registration is not required, but is requested to help with planning, but even if you decide to join us on the morning of, you're always welcome. Please contact Aileen Heiman, Director of Youth Education and Family Programming, at  , with any questions about accessibility or other needs. Shana Tovah! 

 

Kolot Chayeinu/Voices of our Lives:
We are excited to offer a new Youth and Family Service running simultaneous with our main services. This musical, interactive High Holy Days service is geared towards school-age youth. We welcome all families with younger children, though children ages 6 and younger must be accompanied by a responsible family member or adult. This will be a family-friendly space for all ages. 

Rosh HaShanah Youth and Family Service: 
Monday, Sep 30 11:00am-12:30pm

Yom Kippur Youth and Family Service: 
Wednesday, Oct 9 11:00am-12:30pm

Both services take place in the atrium of NAB Theater at City Tech - 285 Jay Street in Downtown Brooklyn

 

Brooklyn Heights Synagogue
 Community Family Services for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur
Led by Rabbi Molly Kane
FREE and open to all. No ticket required
Monday, September 30th | 2:00PM
Wednesday, October 9th | 2:00PM
Services are located at Plymouth Church, 57 Orange Street

 

Congregation Beth Elohim
High Holy Days at CBE is a special time to reflect, rejoice, and connect. For families with toddlers, our interactive services for tots ages 0-4 and their parents are the perfect opportunity to come together during this meaningful time. And for families with special needs, please join us for a needs appropriate, sensory friendly High Holy Day experience.
 All Tots Services and the Special Needs Service are free and open to the public! For more information and our full schedule, visit https://cbebk.org/hhds/familyservices/
Services are located CBE, 274 Garfield Place
Shanah Tovah!

 

Kane Street Synagogue
High Holidays family services for kids of all ages and their families. Open to the community! Childcare and family services are included in synagogue membership. We ask non-members to purchase tickets for their family if they plan to us for family services and/or utilize childcare during the High Holidays ($50 for services and $18 for childcare). You can register at https://kanestreet.shulcloud.com/form/high-holidays-tix.

 For more information on all of our holiday programming, visit https://kanestreet.org/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/2016_HI-HOLIDAY-FAMILY-SCHEDULE-1.pdf

 

Union Temple

The High Holy Days are almost here! Union Temple invites you and your family to begin a new year with the sweetness of community. Union Temple’s Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur family services feature kid- and family-centered prayer, song, storytelling and connection to the values of these powerful days. There is no charge and all are welcome to any and all of our services, adult and kid alike. Just let us know that you’re coming at HHD.Union-Temple.org. Your email confirmation is your ticket; present it when you enter. One ticket is good for all services. Childcare is also available during all adult services. Please visit HHD.Union-Temple.org for the full schedule of services and more information.

ROSH HASHANAH (Monday, September 30) | 9:00AM
Services for 5 and under: 4th Floor
Services for 5+ and older: 3rd Floor 

YOM KIPPUR (Wednesday, October 9) | 9:00AM
Services for 5 and under: 4th Floor
Services for 5+ and older: 3rd Floor

 

Join the B’SHERT family for High Holiday Services! You do not need tickets for our children’s services.
Rosh Hashanah, Monday, September 30th at 1:30PM
Yom Kippur, Wednesday, October 9th at 1:15PM
Beth Shalom v’Emeth Reform Temple
83 Marlborough Road, Brooklyn, NY 11218 (at Church Avenue)

  

Romemu Brooklyn

Berkeley Carroll School
Romemu Brooklyn is pleased to host our second season of High Holy Days for 5780/2019.
Babysitting and youth programs are included at no additional charge for all service times. For information and to register, visit: https://www.romemu.org/about/brooklyn/hhdbk/

 

Flatbush Jewish Center
327 E. 5th Street in Kensington
Welcome the new year with our Conservative egalitarian community. High Holiday tickets are included with FJC membership.
For non-members, tickets are $220, or $110 for Coop Hebrew School parents who are not FJC members. 
Rosh Hashanah Children’s Program, Monday, September 30th at 10:00AM
Yom Kippur Children’s Program, Wednesday, October 9th at 10:00AM

 

Bayridge Jewish Center
Free and all are welcome
Rosh Hashanah Services
Monday, September 30th & Tuesday, October 1st
10:00AM (ages 0+ - 5yrs); 11:00AM (ages 6 – 11yrs) 

Yom Kippur Children’s Services
Wednesdays, October 9th
10:00AM (ages 0+ - 5yrs); 11:00AM (ages 6 – 11yrs)
 For information on our complete High Holiday schedule, visit http://brjc.org/wp-newsite/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/BRJCHIGHHOLIDAYSCHEDULE2019newimproved.doc2_.docxF_.docxF-1-1.pdf

 

 

Chabad of Windsor Terrace
1266 Prospect Avenue
Led by our experienced and energetic group leaders, we will provide fun and educational program for your children while you attend services. Children will enjoy age appropriate games, stories, discussions, prayers and songs. No membership needed. 
Rosh Hashanah Children's Program, Monday, September 30th and Tuesday, October 1st at 11:30AM

 

Doc Fox's Lessons for Better Communication

Some of you might not know that Founder Susan Fox has her Ph. D. in Communication (from a gazillion years ago). She still teaches a graduate level Interpersonal Communication Course at NYU every so often and at the end of the semester I hand out a documnet called, "Doc Fox's Lessons for Better Communication."

When she mentions it to people they say they'd love to see it. So here it is; raw, un-prettied up, and for your knowledge. So come sit down and see what you might need from this and leave the rest. 

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Favorite sayings:

"The only person who acts sensibly is my tailor. He takes my measure anew every time he sees me. Everyone else goes by their old measurements." George Bernard Shaw.

"You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do." Olin Miller

"Be Kind. You Never Know What Someone Is Going Through." Author Unknown

 

Doc Fox's Lessons for Better Communication

Perception, Emotions, and Listening 

  • Remember that meaning is in the person, not the words. How you think something should be interpreted and how it is interpreted are two different things.

  • People don't MAKE YOU feel anything. You are reacting to them, their words, and their behavior. Rather than "you make me feel X," use your "I" language and say, "I feel X when you…." Likewise, you don’t make other people feel anything. (Don’t mention this in the middle of a heated discussion.)

  • Give people the benefit of the doubt and realize that you're likely to assume something bad happens to you because of external sources and something bad happens to others because of internal reasons.

  • Don't 'half' or pseudo-listen. Folding clothes and talking is one thing; reading email and trying to talk isn't really the best use of anyone's time. If you aren't able to give a person your full attention, tell them "I can give you my undivided attention at another time (hopefully offering another time). Right now isn't a good time."

  • Avoid using “should” have, “would” have, “ought” to, never and always.

  • Practice listening. Get out of your head and do more than hear- embrace. It takes energy and time so listen when you can do it mindfully.

 

Communication Skills

  • Communication is NOT a natural ability. You can always be a better communicator. 

  • Ask, "What do you understand?" rather than "do you understand?" Likewise, ask "what about that makes sense?" rather than "does that make sense?"

  • Paraphrase by saying "what I think I hear you saying is…."  and ask, "is there anything else?" when you are talking to someone, especially about a serious matter.

  • Don't “ASSUME” (assuming makes an ASS out of U and Me) and can lead to misunderstandings.  Perception check, "you did/said X, which made me think Y, but I wanted to make sure I wasn't misreading what you did/said."

  • Ask, "Is this a good time to talk?" when you start a conversation

  • When turning down an invitation say, "but I'd love to be invited again so please ask" if, in fact, this is the case.

  • If you're not willing to say it to someone's face, don't write it in an email. Especially don't write it in an email to someone ELSE.

  • Take your time answering requests and making decisions (if you have time); you'll be glad to have the time to make an informed decision and give a thoughtful response. 

  • Don’t use a personal conversation as a way to self-promote.

  • If you are about to write/do something out of anger/frustration/fear; STOP. Write it, let it sit until you've had a good night's sleep. Send it to yourself as a nudgemail and give it some time to rest.

  • Set limits if you have a deadline at the outset of a conversation or meeting. Say, "I need to be somewhere else at X so we need to wrap things up by Y."

  • Apologize, expressing remorse, acknowledge of wrongdoing, accepting responsibility, and offering to repair. 

 

 

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Fall and Halloween Events -- 2019 Edition

It was a great Halloween! Next year Halloween is on a SATURDAY!  Fun to come!  Make sure to join Park Slope Parents to be up on all of the action!

Here are some PHOTOS of the Parade:

Susan Fox Photos 

Don Wiss Photos

 

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Dating Apps (sigh): A Discussion From Our Single/Divorced/Separated Group

 

 

 

So you’re looking to enter (or re-enter) the exciting world of dating! It can certainly be daunting, but just know— all of us at Park Slope Parents are rooting for you! Here is some handy advice for navigating those pesky dating apps. 

 

Here’s the original question:

 

Hi Fellow SDS-ers,

I am ready to start dating again, and realize that I probably have to use the dreaded apps. I'm in my mid-30's and looking for both short-term fun and a long-term relationship, primarily with cis-men. What I *don't* have is much free time (I have sole custody of my 2-year-old and work full-time). Ideally I'd like to meet guys with kids who will be understanding of my time constraints. 

What apps have you all found tolerable? Also, do you mention your children in your profile? I want to be honest about being a solo parent, but I have been warned that pedophiles will sometimes seek out single moms on these sites in order to gain access to their children (shudder). What are your safety tips?

Thanks for your input!

 

We’ve compiled and organized  the answers below.

 

Advice from our members about dating in general: 

 

 

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SURVIVING THANKSGIVING

How to survive the Thanksgiving Holidays

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There's a not so funny joke that goes like this:

"Why your family is so good at pushing your buttons?"

"Why?"

"Because they installed them!"

So as you go into the holidays next week (I’m giving you a week to prepare) try to remember that it took years to learn those now-instant knee-jerk reactions to the crazy things that your family does. I don't know about you, but it's hard not to turn into the 13 year old runt of the family when I'm around them.

Partners? You have the fun task of being between a rock and a hard place. You're "damned if you do and damned if you don’t." If you criticize your 'in-laws', you're screwed. If you don't criticize your in-laws (and god forbid talk about how their side of the story may make sense) you're also screwed.

So---Here are some tips that you and your partner can use to keep the peace during the Holidays, adapted from this Jezebel article "Social Minefield: How You (and Your Partner) Can Survive Thanksgiving with the Family."

 

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Ways to Give 2019

Giving is a great way to help those who need a hand up this holiday season. We have many ways to help, including gift drives, warm winter wear drives and more.  For any of the great drives below, feel free to organize a toy drive with your office or your baby group!  Have a holiday party potluck and have people bring gifts to donate.

 

Share these drives with work colleagues, block associations, or on social media. Every little bit helps!

 

 

The 2019 Little Essentials' Toy Drive

 

Suport Little Essentials Holiday Toy Drive and shop their Holiday Wish List on Amazon at from November 18th to December 2nd.

 

DETAILS: Select the gifts and send to the address near the top of the page: Little Essentials c/o Tribeca Pediatrics' Gift Registry Address

Little Essentials is a PSP favorite not-for-profit partner. They are a community response to a community need, helping families with children under 5 who live at or below the poverty line. PSP has  worked with them for 7 years, ever since founder and Ft. Greene mom Sandie Trombert had her living room chock full of donated items from her baby group friends to distribute to people less fortunate.

Deadline: December 16th

 

 

 

2019 Sheltering Arms Winter Wonders Gift Drive

 

Use Sheltering Arms Gift Registry for gifts ideas that kids and teens would love to open this holiday season.

 

Working with Foster Care, and with feedback from our youth 13+ , we decided to provide older youth with gift cards. We kindly ask that families consider donating gift cards (which can be found on the Amazon wishlist) to help us ensure our youth can purchase what they need/want. We have approximately 90 youth who are 13 years old and over. Of course, there is a need for gifts for children of all ages so we would be grateful to receive any gift that your families choose to donate. 

After making your gift, please fill out their online Donation Form - found at https://forms.gle/F5VxBdjZvCGZYVWB8  if you need a tax letter.

 

  • Select Sheltering Arms’ Gift Registry Address for the shipping address

  •  Enter your name, your Organization’s name if applicable, your contact information and the name of the Wishlist you chose your gift(s) from

    • E.g. 2019 Winter Wonders - Foster Care in the 'Gift Message' field.

    • If you're donating several gifts from the same wishlist, you only have to enter this information once on the first item listed in checkout

 

Questions? Contact Diana Ortiz at or (212) 886-5771.

Deadline: Thursday, December 5th

 

WRAPPING PARTIES-- These are at Sheltering Arms headquarters in Manhattan: 

    • 12/7 12p - 3pm
    • 12/8 12p - 3pm
    • 12/14 12p - 3pm
    • 12/15 12p - 3pm

 

 

Lantern Winter Gift Drive 2019

More than 23,000 children age out of the US foster care system every year.
After reaching the age of 18, 20% of the children who were in foster care will become instantly homeless.

Lantern Community Services champions the independence and well-being of New York City youth who are threatened with homelessness.

This holiday, many of our youth don’t have families to turn to at all.

With your help, we’ll make sure that every single one of them receives a gift.

 

Each gift on their Amazon Wishlist is only around $20. 

Please consider donating to our Amazon Wishlist

Or, gifts may be mailed to: 

Lantern Community Services Holiday Gift Drive

c/o Karisa Antonio

494 8th Avenue, 20th Floor

New York, NY 10001

 Lantern is a 501(c)3 tax exempt nonprofit and we would love to give you a letter acknowledging your donation for your tax records. To receive a tax letter, go here  and fill out their form.

 Questions?    

Second Chance Toys

Nearly 14 million children in the United States – 22% of all children – live in families with incomes below the federal poverty level – $22,050 a year for a family of four. Just by donating a gently used toy, you can make a world of difference in the life of a disadvantaged child and at the same time help keep toys out of our landfills.

From December 2nd until December 12th.

    • Kidville Park Slope

      808 Union Street, Brooklyn, NY 11215

      Monday- Friday:9:00 am-5:00 pm

      Sat & Sun call store for hours

      Phone: 718-569-2150

    • Kidville Carroll Gardens

      380 Court Street, Brooklyn, NY 11231

      Monday- Friday:9:00 am-5:00 pm

      Sat & Sun call store for hours

      Phone: 718-522-1700

    • Private Building (leave with Doorman)

      265 State St. #801

      Downtown Brooklyn, NY 11201

    • South Slope Doorman Drop-off

      438 12th Street

      Brooklyn, NY 11215

 

 

Donate to the 31st Annual New York Cares Coat Drive!

For the last 31 years, New York Cares has channeled the generosity of our city into our annual Coat Drive. Last year we distributed our two millionth coat, and this year our goal is to collect 100,000 new or gently used coats for New Yorkers in need in partnership with social service agencies, public schools, transitional housing shelters, and other nonprofit organizations. 

 

You can donate new or gently used winter coats at a variety of locations citywide, including any NYPD precinct or our warehouse in Midtown (located at 157 W 31st St, New York, NY 10001). You can also start a collection, or help us purchase new coats at wholesale prices by texting “COAT” to 474747. Every $20 donated will keep a fellow New Yorker warm this winter. The Coat Drive is a proud tradition that shows what New York City is really about: giving back to the community by looking out for one another ❤️

 

Learn more about the Coat Drive on our website:https://www.newyorkcares.org/coat-drive.

 

If you have any questions please email us at or call us at (212) 402-1103.

 

 

PS 321 COAT DRIVE

December 2-6 coats will be collected in the school entrance (180 Seventh Avenue_.The coats will be distributed to families in need through St. Mary's Episcopal Church.

 

Dime Annual Holiday Toy Drive

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Dime Community Bank is located on the corner of 5th Ave and Union.
208 5th Avenue

 

2019 Holiday Drive at Borough Hall
 

 

 

Give to the PS 130 PTA Holiday Gift Drive for children in need this holiday season

At this time of year, there are so many worthy causes to support, and a great deal of need in the world. We are writing to ask you to consider need closer to home: the children in the PS 130 classrooms in Kensington, Brooklyn.

Each year, the PS 130 PTA sponsors a “Holiday Gift Drive” program: families in need are invited to register their children and fill out a list of needs and wants for the winter, and receive a gift basket of those items for their child(ren) in mid-December. As a Title I elementary school, we have a great number of families eligible for this program. This year we have 95 children registered to receive baskets.

Our program is asking the community at large if they can help by sponsoring winter boots ($30) or a coat & boots ($50) for a child in need. It takes a village to fill that many gift baskets.
On December 16, we’ll deliver 95 baskets, which will hold coats, boots, shoes, pjs, blankets/sheets, hats, gloves, scarves, rain gear, toiletries, socks, underwear, school supplies and backpacks to meet the children’s needs for this year. We’ll also include items from each child’s special “wants” – books, toys, art supplies, games and more.

Two Ways You Can Help - DONATION DEADLINE: TUES DEC 10:
1) Sponsor Winter Boots for $30, or a Coat & Boots for $50.
Please click on this link to give if you are able – and no amount is too small to help us towards the goal:


2) Buy gifts from the Holiday Gift Drive Amazon Wish List.
All gifts on our list are requested items for a specific child – books, toys, games, blankets, sheets & clothing gift cards. Your gift will be sent directly to the school.

PS 130 PTA is a 501(c)(3) organization, and donations are fully tax-deductible to the extent allowed by law.
Questions can be emailed to

Thank you for your generosity!
With gratitude,
The PS 130 PTA - Holiday Gift Drive Committee

 

 

Shot's for Tots Toy Drive

November 29-December 22(Confirmed date)
Butter & Scotch
818 Franklin Ave
Brooklyn, NY 11225
O:347.350.8890
W: butterandscotch.com
A box will be located in the space to collect toys and a shot is offered for each patron that brings in a new toy."

 

Holiday Printmaking with Private Picassos
 
 
 
 
Paint and Sip to Benefit CHiPS
 
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2019 Holiday Guide to Tree Lightings, Caroling, Santa Photos and More!

Here are all the great holiday happenings in Brooklyn and beyond this season. Also check out our article about Where to See Christmas Lights (including Dyker Heights). Holiday window displays run until the new year-- so if you haven't seen them, you still have time to enjoy! Have another holiday event to add?  Email ."> .

We've also got a list of places where you can take photos with Santa!

Looking for ways to give this season? Check out the Park Slope Parents supported Holiday Drives (with a few others we found!)

 

 

Events December 9nd through December 15th

 

CAMBA Tree Lighting @ the Armory Shelter

Thursday, December12 @ 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM
CAMBA Women's Shelter, 1402 8th Avenue, South Slope
Sing songs, drink hot cocoa, eat cookies, watch the lighting of the armory decorations and enjoy the beauty of the armory.

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Santa at the Atlantic Terminal Mall|
Thursday, December 12th, 5pm - 7pm
139 Flatbush Avenue
 Life-size snow globe photo op, live music, selfies with Santa, Winter Wonderland community art & much more!

 

 

Weekend of December 13th, 14th, and 15th

Brooklyn Borough Hall Tree Lighting 

Wednesday, December 11th

5:30 pm - 6:30 pm

Holiday refreshments and musical entertainment at the annual tree lighting.

Borough Hall Plaza

 

 

 

 

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Sing-A-Long Movie Spectacular @ PS 282

Wednesday, December 11th

5:30 pm - 8 pm

Proceeds go toward enrichment programs

180 6th Avenue

 

Photos with Santa Claus at the Old Stone House

Saturday, December 14th

10am – 12pm

The Old Stone House, 5th Ave between 3rd and 4th Streets

Join Park Slope Parents, the Old Stone House and the Park Slope 5th Avenue BID for our 4th annual photo session with Santa, in partnership with Park Slope Parents and the Park Slope Fifth Avenue BID. Photographer Marc Goldberg will make his professional photos available on his website for purchase, and you’re welcome to snap your own photo as well.

 

Santa in Center Slope 

Saturday December 14th, 2019 

2-4 pm

Catch Santa shopping from 9th Street to The Old Stone House. Come find him and get a candy cane and a photo!

Organized by the 5th Avenue BID. 

 

Merry On Myrtle Winter Festival 

Saturday, December 14th

12-3pm 

While holiday shopping, enjoy live ice sculpting, music, crafts for kids, and more seasonal fun in the Myrtle Avenue Plaza. All activities are FREE.

From Classon Ave to Washington Park 

 

Caroling with All Saints Church Park Slope

Saturday, December 14th

The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear!  Join us for an afternoon of caroling.

Meet and practice (and have a snack!) from 4:30-5 at All Saints Church undercroft (on 7th Ave near 7th St, at the sign for “Park Slope Center for Successful Aging.”) We’ll leave at 5 to carol in a few spots around the neighborhood, then return to the church around 5:45-6 to warm up with some hot chocolate.

Please let us know if you plan to attend by RSVPing to "> .

 

Jingle Bell Jamboree

Saturday, December 14th 

7 pm 

After a 4 year hiatus, the annual Park Slope family concert and sing-a-long is returning to Old First Church in Park Slope, Brooklyn.

Klezmer Hanukkah Party

Saturday, December 14th

3:30-5:30pm

BKCM Concert Hall (58 7th Ave at Lincoln Pl.)

Co-hosted by Brooklyn Conservatory of Music and Congregation Beth Elohim. Get into the Hanukkah spirit with our Community Klezmer Band featuring renowned Klezmer artists, as well as Klezmer song and dance leaders. Warm up with latkes, Hanukkah crafts, and more!

Tickets here: https://bkcm.org/event/klezmerhanukkah19/

 

Winterfest 2019

Saturday, December 14th

11am - 4pm

Brooklyn Friends School, 375 Pearl Street

Crafts and workshops suitable for all ages!

 

 

Holiday Market at P.S. 118

Saturday, December 14th

11am - 5pm

Inside P.S. 118 at 211 8th St. and 4th Ave.

Holiday shopping season is here--and we've got the perfect gift for everyone on your list! Join us at the second annual PS118 Holiday Market on Saturday, December 14, from 11 am to 5 pm, at PS118 (on 8th Street between 4th and 5th Avenues). During this fabulous, festive event, each floor of our school is transformed: The cafeteria becomes a delightful café and all the other floors are filled with children's activities, crafts, jewelry, and more (all for sale!) So much shopping! Proceeds benefit PS118.

 

2nd Annual Brower Park Library Winter Festival

Saturday, December 14th

11am - 4pm

Brower Park Library, 725 St. Marks Avenue

The event includes a special story time, an art workshop, and a special visit (and photo opportunity) with Santa.  Hot cider and donuts will help us celebrate the holidays. Come kick off the winter season with us!

 

 

The Great Christmas Tree: A participation play for children.

11 am, Saturday, December 14th

12 pm, Sunday, December 15th

119 14th St, Brooklyn

$8 

 

Matt Heaton's Holiday Hootenanny

Sunday, December 15th

11am

Jalopy Theater, 315 Columbia

$10-15 

Matt Heaton’s Holiday Hootenanny is a dance-filled, laugh-laced concert for the whole family. With his band the Outside Toys, Heaton performs hits from his shiny new album “Snow Day!” (Because nothing says holidays like fiddle drenched honky-tonk numbers, retro hi fi guitar stylings, and a rock solid rhythm section.)

 

 

 

 

 

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Membership Perks

Here are the PERKS to your Park Slope Parents membership!

Not a PSP member and are a parent in Brooklyn?  Join here.

If you’re a business and you want to become a Membership Perks Provider and give discounts to our members, please click here.

Download/print your membership card and have it handy to redeem your membership perks. Step-by-step instructions here.

DOWNLOAD the image to your phone. Make it a favorite so it’s easy to find. Also keep a copy keep a copy on the desktop for easy access.
PRINT the card. Select “wallet” as the print option.

 

To see all of our perks in one place, click here!

 

Perks for Kids

arts crafts culture mp.dance movement

mp.language mp.music theatre

mp.team sports mp.camps

mp.education tutors tutoring

 
Perks for Health

mp.dentists orthodontists mp.therapists mental health professionals

mp.health healing

 

 

Perks for Adults

mp.career help mp.pampered parent new2

mp.yoga pilates fitness trainers new mp.parenting resources

 

 

Perks for House and Home

mp.home services repair pest control mp.house floor furniture decorators organizers

mp.moving companies supplies mp.clothing shoes gifts furniture

mp.computer graphics services mp.restaurants food food delivery

 

 

 Perks for Businesses and Services

mp.local businesses services mp.pet care

mp.party entertainment planning mp.photography framing portrait services

mp.publications media

 

 

Perks for Baby Birthing

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2019 Holiday Tips Survey: The Results are IN!

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Here are the key findings from the annual Park Slope Parents Holiday Tips Survey in which Brooklyn residents report their upcoming end-of-year gifts to service providers, nannies, and teachers.

  • Gifts for K-12 teachers have risen. The amount people are giving to K-12 teachers is up from last year. The most frequently given amount to these teachers is $50 this year, up from $25 last year.
  • Tips to neighborhood service providers are down from prior years. Reported tips for supers, door security, occasional babysitters, and more are down from last year.
  • NYC urban living has its costs. Having a full-time nanny, dog walker, parking attendant and living in a doorman building with a super will cost you around $1800 in tips if you gift this year's average. 
  • Folks are showing gratitude with more than just money. One in three (32%) are giving something more than cash (homemade cookies, treats, wine) to their service providers.
  • Almost all employers with nannies plan on giving a monetary bonus this year (97%). Three in four (77%) give a week’s pay as a bonus.
    • Caveat: If your nanny hasn’t been working a year then you can give less, (e.g., ½ week’s pay if they’ve worked only 3 months) but do let the nanny know if you plan on giving more next year.
    • ALSO: Don’t assume a week off without pay is something that your nanny will appreciate. Unless otherwise discussed when you hired your nanny, giving the nanny the week between Christmas and New Year without pay is frowned upon. Most would rather work for pay than miss out on money to support their family.
  • Daycare and preschool teachers feel the gratitude.Typical monetary gifts for both head and secondary teachers is $50. Unlike K-12, parents typically give separately with only two out of three (68%) giving an individual gift only.
  • Power in (organized) numbers. Eight in ten (80%) parents with kids in K-12 students contribute to a class gift.
  • Thank everyone. A kind gesture to the folks that support your life (e.g., crossing guards, lunch staff, accountants, after school staff, tutors, and therapists) is always appreciated!

 

DETAILED FINDINGS:

Personal Neighborhood Service Providers:

 

Home Related Providers

Average Tip/Gift

Mode

Difference from 2018

Superintendent

$102

$100

-$20

House Cleaner

$108

$100

-$1

Daytime Doorman

$77

$50

-$29

Dog Walker

$104

$100

+4

Occasional Babysitter

$72

$100

-$49

Nighttime Doorman

$66

$50

-$14

Porter

$55

$50

-$15

Hair Stylist

$53

$20

-$7

Parking Attendant

$48

$40

-$3

Package Delivery (non-USPS)

$28

$20

$0

USPS Mail Carrier

$24

$20

-$1

New York Sanitation Department Garbage/Truck Recycling

$24

$20

$0

TOTAL

761

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-$135

 

Daycare, Preschool, and K-12 Teachers

  • Almost everyone (88%) contributes to a combined class gift to K-12 teachers. Some parents use websites and apps like Frumus, Venmo, Payit2 and Signup Genius to organize and pool donations.

 

Type of Teacher

Average Tip/Gift

Mode

Preschool/Daycare Head Teacher

$65

$50

Preschool/Daycare Secondary Teacher

$51

$50

K-12 Teacher*

$45

$50

Special Services Teacher

$33

$25

Afterschool Service Providers

$33

$20

 

Is it against the DOE policy to give teachers’ gifts? It is NOT the case that Department of Education K-12 teachers cannot receive gifts. Department of Education policy states: “Teachers may accept class gifts as long as parents are not asked to contribute more than a small amount of money towards the gift and all parents are given an opportunity to sign the card, whether or not they contribute to the gift.” However, be reasonable—extravagant gifts could get your teacher in hot water!

*Learn more about holiday gifts for teachers, including do’s and don’ts, in the Park Slope Parents’ article: How to Thank Teachers at the Holidays & End of the Year.

Nannies

  • ALL of the respondents (100%) are using the holidays as an opportunity to give a yearly bonus or gifts.
  • 83% of employers give amounts incremental to a week’s pay. Of these, 77% give a week’s pay, 22% give two week’s pay, and 2% give three week’s pay.
  • The average end-of-year bonus a nanny will receive is $688.
  • Almost half (46%) of Brooklyn families with a nanny also give a non-monetary purchased gift as well as a bonus.  More than 20% also give a homemade gift. 

 

Nanny Situation

Average Amount 2019

Average Amount 2018

Average Amount 2017

Average Amount 2016

Average Amount 2015

Average Amount 2014

Full time (over 40 hours/week) 

$1043

$1083

$1032

$969

$832

$1005

Part-time (16-40 hours)    

$605

$530

$551

$540

$487

$597

Part-time (up to 15 hours) 

$210

$198

$215

$284

$241

$167

OVERALL Average for Nanny

$688

$765

$762

$760

$724*

$623

 

Has your nanny worked for less than a year? If a nanny has worked for less than a year but more than three months, most employers give at least a half-week of pay. Make sure to inform your nanny that you intend to give a full-week’s pay next year, if things work out. Also, if you give bonuses on anniversaries rather than the end-of-year, remind them of that timeline.   

Since newer nannies (those who have worked less than three months) may feel left out without a bonus, we suggest giving a bonus worth about 2-3 days pay. Again, make sure to give an explanation of your reasoning, and tell them what they can expect next year. Clarity about when your nanny can expect raises and bonuses is key.

As always, a heartfelt note with sincere gratitude (maybe a list of specific things you appreciate) always warms the heart and makes folks special and thanked. (Feel free to do that to EVERYONE in your life!)

 

METHODOLOGY:
Park Slope Parents collected 482 responses from December 1 - December 9th, 2109 via an online survey program (surveymonkey.com). The survey was distributed online through the Park Slope Parents website, their email groups and social media outlets, online blogs, and other online parenting/ neighborhood groups (Yahoo! Groups, FaceBook, Groups.io and more). The results are based on tips and gifts in Brooklyn only.

  

ABOUT PARK SLOPE PARENTS

  • Park Slope Parents (PSP) is a community in Brooklyn, NY of more than 7,000 local families who offer each other support and community throughout the parenting experience.
  • PSP online resources include a public website with member reviews and parenting advice, online forums including an Advice List (exchanging information about parenting and community issues), a Classifieds list (a local buy/sell/trade group for swapping kid gear and finding nannies), and a Career Networking Group which connects parents to jobs and professional resources. It also has over 100 subgroups including pregnancy and new parent, dads, working moms, bilingual, LGBTQ, industry-related career, cooking, gardening, allergy, vegetarian and more.
  • PSP offers offline, in-person events including parenting workshops, clothing swaps, community fundraisers, and networking events.
  • PSP also partners with nonprofits such as the Brooklyn Family Justice Center, Little Essentials, Sheltering Arms, and Lantern Community Services to provide donations to those in need.
  • PSP also sponsors community events such as the Celebrate Brooklyn Concerts, Prospect Park Alliance events, and more
  • Park Slope Parents is open to all parents in Brooklyn and requires an annual membership fee of $50 ($45 for renewals) to support ongoing services (like this Holiday Tips Survey). Membership includes discounts to more than 500 local products and services.
  • Parents in Brooklyn can apply for membership here: https://parkslopeparents.clubexpress.com/

 

 

Ready, set, swap! March 2nd is the PSP Member Kids Clothing Swap

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When: Saturday, March 2nd, 2019
Time: 10:00AM - 12:30PM
Where: All Saints Church 463A 7th Street, entrance on 7th Street (the Park Slope Senior Center)

How much and details:

  • $5.00/member - only payable at the door
  • You must be a PSP member (we will be checking at the door). Not a PSP member?

What to bring:

  • Please bring swappable kid clothing/books/gear for ages newborn-10 years. If you wouldn’t give it to your finicky in-law, don’t bring it to the swap.
  • Maternity items (especially work clothes)
  • Nursing and feeding items 
  • Breast pumps, bottles, baby carriers
  • Bouncy seats, belly bands, unused pacifiers
  • NO toys please
  • If you just want to drop stuff off, that's allowed-- anything not swapped will be donated.

Know someone who is not a member and would like to come? Tell them to sign up and become a member to start enjoying events like these and more! http://bit.ly/JOINPSP

Heads up:

PREEMIE clothes
---0 - 6 months***NEW
---6 - 12 months***NEW
---12 - 18 months
---18 - 24 months
---2 & 3 year olds
---4 & 5 year olds
---5 - 8 year olds
---8-10 year olds

***NEW Please presort MATERNITY clothes as well. We're going to have a more organized section for those clothes!
---Maternity S
---Maternity M
---Maternity L

Can't come and want to donate? DROP OFF DONATIONS to us at one of two drop off points Monday– Friday (please no large items), 9am - 9pm

NORTH Slope Drop off:
190 Garfield Place (between 6th & 7th), apt 5E (please text Jeff at 917-685-8250 to double check availability)

SOUTH Slope Drop off
438 12th Street (between 7th and 8th) doorman there between 9am – 9pm.

NIGHT BEFORE Drop Off can also drop off from 6pm - 8pm on Friday Night. You can drop off, pay your $5, and skip the line if you prefer. 463A 7th Street, entrance on 7th Street (the Park Slope Center for Successful Aging)

 

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Ready, set, swap! October 5th is the PSP Member Kids Clothing & Gear and Maternity Swap

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The PSP Members Only Clothing, Gear, and Maternity Swap 
When:
Saturday, October 5th, 2019
Time:
10:00am - 12:30pm
     
Last entry at 12:10pm
Early drop off from 9:15 to 9:45am
Where: All Saints Church 463A 7th Street, entrance on 7th Street (the Park Slope Center for Successful Aging)

Price and details:

  • $5.00/member - payable at the door
  • You must be a Park Slope Parents member with a valid Membership Card. Download/Print your membership card. Step by Step Instructions here: http://bit.ly/MembershipCard_DL

 

 

What to bring:

  • Please bring swappable kid clothing/books/gear for ages newborn-10 years. If you wouldn’t give it to your finicky in-law, don’t bring it to the swap.
  • Maternity items (especially work clothes)
  • Nursing and feeding items 
  • Breast pumps, bottles, baby carriers
  • Bouncy seats, belly bands, unused pacifiers
  • NO toys please
  • If you just want to drop stuff off, that's allowed-- anything not swapped will be donated.

 

DROP OFF ITEMS BEFORE THE SWAP! 

NORTH SlopeWednesday, 9/25 through Wednesday, October 2nd
190 Garfield Place (between 6th & 7th), apt 5E (please text Jeff at 917-685-8250 to double check availability)

SOUTH Slope  Wednesday, 9/25 through Wednesday, October 2nd.
438 12th Street (between 7th and 8th) doorman there between 9am – 9pm.

WINDSOR TERRACE  - ***available Saturday Sept 28 - Monday Sept 30***
1 Prospect Park SW, apt 2A (please text MC at 407-864-2225 to double-check availability)

DROP OFF THE NIGHT BEFORE THE SWAP
Pre-Swap, Night Before Drop Off 6pm- 8pm FRIDAY, OCTOBER 4th ONLY
463A 7th Street, entrance on 7th Street (the Park Slope Center for Successful Aging)
Drop off or donate-- (you can also pay your $5 and skip the line on Saturday).

PLEASE PRE-SORT... Mark with sharpie on the bag the size of the clothes. Makes it super easy to run the items to the appropriate tables.  You'll be able to toss bags in separate bins when you come into the swap!

  • Preemie clothes
  • 0 - 6 months***NEW
  • 6 - 12 months***NEW
  • 12 - 18 months
  • 18 - 24 months
  • 2 & 3 year olds
  • 4 & 5 year olds
  • 5 - 8 year olds
  • 8-10 year olds

***ALSO Please presort MATERNITY clothes as well. We're going to have a more organized section for those clothes!

  • Maternity S
  • Maternity M
  • Maternity L

We've been helping the planet and our fellow swappers since 2005!  


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