Moving your child into their own bed/crib

Recommendations for moving an infant out of their parents' bed to their own crib...

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"As far as moving out of your bed goes I read a great piece of advice and used it and it worked like a charm. You move the crib into your room and push it all the way up against your side of the bed so that it acts like a cosleeper. This way your smell and sounds are still just as close. Then, every couple of nights, you move it a little further away, until it's as far as it will go and then move it into their room."

"He was sleeping really well until about 5 months or so, and then it all went out the window. we had occasional success getting him to fall back to sleep by giving him a pacifier in the middle of the night (we did not pick him up, just stuck it in his mouth, and sometimes he would fall right back to sleep.) Or if his mouth bothers him, sometimes we'll give him a frozen teething toy, which helps. Or occasionally Tylenol."

"I never (absolutely never) let my child sleep in bed with us. 2. At around 3 months we started to let him cry it out. And from that first night we let him cry and he has slept through the night almost consistently. Although there were intervals at which he woke in the middle we made sure he wasn't sick or teething and then let him cry it out to get back to sleep. 3. We do not give milk in the middle of the night unless he is sick. 4. Starting at around 6 months I made sure not to let him fall asleep on the breast during his last meal of the day just before bed. It was important that he learn to fall asleep on his own, in his crib. If he started to fall asleep I'd take him off the breast. Then if he wanted more I'd put him back on."

"You are going to have to work on putting him down in his own bed/room and you are going to have to start letting him cry it out. CIO. It can be the most difficult thing in the world for a mom to do, and seems to bring up many issues for people. But it is the only thing that really works."

"My pediatrician recommended that for that middle of the night feeding you have your husband/partner go to the baby (of course this only works if the child doesn't sleep with you I guess) with a bottle of water. That way the child learns if they get up in the middle of the night they don't "get the 'good' stuff and go back to sleep."


More advice from a January 2021 thread...

One member asks:

"I know that most advice is to hold out on transitioning out of the crib to a toddler bed for as long as possible. We've been fortunate enough that as for now, our 2.5 year old hasn't tried to climb out, but she's starting to think about it I fear (she pretends to when she wants me to stay in the room at bedtime). I'd like to know if it's as awful as it sounds (she can open her door now) or it's a solid step in her development/independence. I'm seeing there might be some benefits (maybe she'll get up on her own for middle of the night potty runs and it'll open up more bed options at the grandparents), but I'm also worried she's going to be in our room or climbing the furniture in hers.

Any advice or just personal experiences to put things in perspective/to consider would be greatly appreciated."


Members advise:

"My son started climbing out of the crib at 18 months, and dropping the mattress to the floor only bought us a few more months of crib bliss, so he was in a toddler bed before he hit 2.

It was much easier than I anticipated, and he slept through the night pretty much every night until we moved into our new apartment last month, and now he's climbing into bed with us every night/morning.

It's different for every kid. I say go for it."


"I am so glad we didn’t wait to transition to the toddler bed! We did it right at 2 years and it made bedtime so much easier for us. I much prefer to lay down in bed with her and read her a book rather than do so on a rocking chair and then transition. Didn’t have any issues with her climbing out and being rambunctious. There were a handful of times that she tried to open her door in the middle of the night but when she was that drowsy she didn’t have the strength to do it, so she would knock on the door and we’d go in and put her back to sleep. I know every child is different so your experience may not be the same, but just to say it’s not always a painful experience! Good luck.'

"I also dreaded the transition but we finally bit the bullet around 2 yrs 4 months. My son had climbed out a few times, so we dropped the mattress to the ground for a few months. We picked a weekend because we figured we’d be up several times walking him back to his room. A few days in advance we started talking about his big boy bed. The night before I introduced an ok to wake clock - I showed him how he could turn it on and that it would turn green when it was ok for him to come out of his room but until then he had to stay in his room.

The first two nights we watched on the monitor and he got out of bed and ran around, grabbed his toys, read books etc but eventually got back in bed. He also came up to the door several times and we could hear him grabbing the handle but he actually never came out once. Two months later, he is still so excited to come in our room in the morning and tell us that his clock is green and wants us to come look at it."

"We transitioned to a toddler bed before my daughter turned two because she climbed out of the crib and injured herself at 19 months. Because of this I think cribs are kind of dangerous after a certain age! Transition was seamless. She was super excited. I was excited not to have to come into her room in the middle of the night anymore and I taught her to climb into my bed quietly and not wake me up. But if having a second kid has taught me anything it is that every baby/kid/family’s needs are different.

And my daughter stopped climbing into our bed at night on her own the day we brought her baby brother home because even little kids are like, 'newborns be crazy.'"

"We are in a similar position as you are (our son is 3, we just made the crib -> bed transition together with night potty training). I'm here to tell you it might not be bad. I was super panicked, as evident from a separate PSP 2017 thread....but it has been great. We made sure to add all the anti-tip stuff we had been putting off and generally childproofed.

We talked up the bed for a week or so before (like with pottytraining) and introduced the bed before nap so we had a test run. We reintroduced his Summer Infant training toilet to his bedroom letting him know he could use it if he needed to go. He absolutely got up and explored, including taking a massive poop in the toilet during that naptime, but has generally stayed in bed since with the exception of getting books.

We also added a lock to his door (liked this one that it could be opened by an adult from either side to prevent accidental lock-in) and explained to him that it's 'to keep him safe' but he never really questioned it or tries to leave. It feels wrong to lock him in at night, but i do feel more secure knowing he can't get out and explore the apt because we can't realistically encase every danger.

Go for it. And good luck!"