Parents of Tweens

The Park Slope Parents Tweens Group was created to assist parents and their children during the transition from childhood to the tumultuous teen years. The group is comprised of an engaged community of parents sharing personal experiences and giving recommendations on a wide range of topics from education, what’s cool for tweens, peer pressure, and school bullying to the onset of puberty, behaviors and attitudes, sexual identity, and self-esteem.

In addition to the vibrant online discussion board, parents have the opportunity to receive expert advice in the form of articles and blog posts as well as attend in-person seminars and workshops led by the professionals who comprise the Tweens Group Advisory Board. Presentation subjects include culture, education, health, media, mental health & wellness, parenting, sports, and social events including a monthly reading book club.

join our lively discussions today!

Not a PSP Member? Click HERE to sign up, and ask to join the PSP Tweens Group when signing up!

Already a PSP Member but not a Tweens group member? Click HERE to fill out a short form so we can get you signed up!



Scheduling Your Teen Through COVID-19: Suggestions from our Parents.



Uh oh. You and your teen are cooped up in your apartment. You can’t send them outside, or to school, or even to the movies. Many of us have decided to try to make a schedule (example below). Here’s some scheduling tips to keep your teen occupied-- if you can convince them to keep a schedule, that is! 




The PSP Gift Guide: Tweens and Teens

Tweens and teens may be notoriously difficult to shop for, but our Park Slope Parents members have them outsmarted with these savvy suggestions.


Read on for the recommendations—and if you’re not already a member of PSP, join our community today to connect with parents in our Tweens & Teens Group!



PSP may receive small amounts of compensation for purchases made through affiliate links in this post. We are a community-supported site, and we include these products because they've received positive reviews from our members.


AirPods case

Keep those pods protected with a silicone case. And if Apple isn’t your speed, pick up a pair of Jabra wireless earbuds with an ergonomic shape.


Artmaking books and supplies

-You Are an Artist: Assignments to Spark Creation, by Sarah Urist Green



Debit Card Solutions for Tweens and Teens

Show me the plastic! Parents discuss safe ways for Teens and Tweens to carry money.





Middle School Interview Questions

Based on member experiences & online sources, PSP found that typical interview questions include things about the school itself, what are the academic interests of the applicant, how they are involved with the community, what are their aspirations for the future & what interests they cultivate outside of school.



The Tradition of Out to Lunch at PS 321

PSP members talk about the benefits (and the few potential drawbacks) PS 321 of off-campus lunch.



Coney Island - what the kids say!

Sabrina and Samantha Van Putten had a recent adventure to Coney Island...




Movies Your Kids Should See to Better Understand their Parents!

This was based on a thread on the PSP Tweens Group.  Movies Your Kids Should See to Better Understand their Parents! (Be sure to also check out our other list, Classic Movies You Want your Tween to See While They Are Tweens)

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Best Science Museums, According to PSP Members

The following quesiton was asked to the Park Slope Parents group: "My rising 6th grader has summer homework to “visit a science museum and write a journal entry describing what you saw and what you learned from it”. What’s your favorite Science Museum?"
Here are their votes!




Current Events Magazines and Websites Appropriate For Tweens

Your tweenager is curious about current events. Here, parents share some of the news outlets that explain current events in an educational, engaging and appropriate way for a tween.




Books for Kids and Tweens About the Birds and the Bees

Got a tween who’s starting to ask some questions about sex, puberty, and all of that good stuff that comes with growing up? PSP members have the book recs you need to help educate your kids in the most age-appropriate, not-scary way possible.


Raising a tween in Brooklyn and not yet a member of Park Slope Parents? Join us today! And if you’re already a member, head here to get connected to our Tweens & Teens Group.



This article also includes recommendations for books geared toward younger kids, specifically preschoolers. Click here to skip to that section!





Park Slope Parents Policy for Posting about Tweens/ Teens Looking for Work

We’ve updated our policy on Tweens/Teens/College Students looking for work so please read the following.

We encourage parents to help their younger kids to find jobs on the Classifieds. 

Post for jobs such as:

Yard Work, leaf raking, snow shoveling, light moving/schlepping
Birthday party/catering help
House/pet sitting, dog walking

Please note we do not allow parents to post for kids regarding higher paying jobs such as tutors or website designers. In addition, if your child is over 22 and looking for babysitting/nanny jobs they need to be recommended by an employer who is a Park Slope Parents member.

If your situation fits our requirements, here are the guidelines:

Post with "Teen/College Student looking for work" in the subject line.
The contact information must be the parent (for safety reasons).
All done? Please resend to and we will be happy to post.


Put YOUR contact information in your post (not the teen’s) so you can vet the inquiry and decide on the safety and legitimacy of the post. While this does not put the full responsibility on the teen, we feel this is the safest way to protect those involved.

It's up to the parent to use a screening method that s/he feels appropriate and pass contact info on.

Best of luck and we hope that your child finds great work!


Suicide Resources for Parents and Tweens and Teens


If you are worried someone is suicidal or if you feel like you are going to hurt yourself, there are a few actions you can take:





Call 911: If there is an immediate risk, do not hesitate to call 911. 

National Suicide Prevention LifelineCall1-800-273-8255 for free confidential support. Available 24/7. 

Crisis Text LineText START to 741741 for free confidential support. Available 24/7. 

NYC Well  Call 1-888-NYC-WELL or text WELL to 65173. They can help you get a sense of whether the situation merits an emergency department visit. They can also link you to a Mobile Crisis service who can visit if needed. 

The JED Foundation Founded by the parents of a college-age son lost to suicide. They have resources for adolescents, families, and friends. They also have resources for creating curricula for middle schools, high schools and colleges to educate staff and students.

Transgender Suicide hotlineRun by and for Trans People. Available 10 am to 4 am EST. 877-565-8860

Teens talk to Teens (see this NYTimes article on Peer to Peer Crisis Hotlines).

Lines for Life, a nonprofit crisis-line organization.

YouthLine, a service that Lines for Life offers for those aged 11 to 21. 

U Lifeline provides help and resources to college students. Text "START" to 741-741 or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Self Injury is a resource on self abuse. 

SiOS is an outreach initiative providing information and resources about self-injury to those who self-injure, those who have recovered, and those who want to help.

Talk to A Therapist: a therapist can do a risk assessment. Park Slope Parents has a list of Teen and Adolescent Therapists. 

The Dougy Center is a national organization with grief resources for children and families. 

Support for Caregivers

NAMI helpline National Alliance on Mental Health.   




Insight into Adolescence with Michael Davidovits, PhD, LCSW

Dr. Michael Davidovits, one of PSP's trusted experts in child and adolescent psychology, joined us for a webinar and shared insight into our tweens and teens through the filter of this challenging year.


Are you a parent in Brooklyn? Join PSP today to connect with our Tweens & Teens Group and build your support network. Already a member? Join the Tweens & Teens group here.


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Raising Awesome Tweens

Thought it was tough getting through middle school yourself?  Lucky US! We get to watch our kids go through it!  Park Slope Parents is HERE FOR YOU with rescources, support and insight from experts as well as from parents who are there right along with you!

Want to be connected to our Tween group but aren't a PSP member? Click HERE

Already a PSP Member but not a Tween group member? Click HERE.

Are you a member but can't find a group? Click HERE.



Tween Book Summary Girl Land


Girl Land was a insightful look at the land from girl to woman.


Raising Tweens Tip #1

Here is a tip


Raising Tween Tip 1.5

Tip 1.5- Better Stronger Faster


Raising Tweens Tip #3

8 tips for raising Great Tweens



How do we teach kids about Money?

"Show me the money!"

Errr - does that sound more like your Tweenager than Tom Cruise in the movie Jerry Maguire?  For us moms and dads, sometimes we want it to be more like show me the value and appreciation of money.  



Make Up and Middle School

A summary of another lively thread on the Tweens Group - this one is about when you should let your Middle Schooler wear make up - and is that even your decision to make?



Tips to Prevent Losing & Forgetting Keys

Tips from parents on how to get your Teen/ Tween to remember their keys!



Coping with screen time and anger issues

Does your Tween have problems putting down a video game?  One parent asks the PSP advice list about dealing with screen time and anger management issues with their Tween.



Acting out Tweens

Advice about tween acting out at home.



Wait, was that a period? Rites Of Passage

How other cultures celebrate menstruation



Setting Cell Phone Guidelines

What guidelines and boundaries do you set with your cell phone? Here, PSP members discuss, deliberate and debate boundaries and use of mobile phones and technology.



Joining The Club

Tween parents talk about “joining the club,” raising issues of bullying & cliques.



How Young Is Too Young For Makeup?

one tween parents asks this crucial questions about their little girls eager to start wearing make up.



Is your kid in control of their body?

Tween Parents discuss teaching kids that they are in control of their body



Shaving Legs

How young is too young to shave legs?



Literary Violence and Tweens

Should you be concerned if your Tween is writing gruesome or violent stories?



Birthday Party Ideas for a Tween Girl


Here are some ideas that my daughter (11) put together for her sister's (9) sleepover party.  There were 6 girls in all. It was all very fun, and as one mom jokily responded: "have fun not sleeping!"



Talking about the Talk

When do you talk about the facts of life – from the birds to the bees and everything in between? Here, PSP parents talk about “The Talk.”



Subway Safety: Kids Riding Alone

From train safety to travel manners, here are tips and suggestions for what to do when your Tween/Kid is ready to ride the Subway alone.

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Chores (the Tween Version): How to Get into the Habit by Kristian Orozco

It is never too early or too late for kids to help out with household chores. Children, like most people, have the need to feel a sense of belonging and significance. What better way to give your kids a sense of belonging and significance than by making them valued contributing members of the family. And by having your kids contribute with household chores, you also give them the opportunity to learn cooperation and responsibility.




Tween Suggested Book/Reading List

The list is broken down into three sections: Girls and Boys (books that address both genders), Girls, and Boys. In addition to books about the tween phase, there are titles about teenagers for parents whose children are quickly approaching the teen phase. In fact, some books address the preteen and teen phases together knowing the line is blurring in our modern age. By no means is the list intended as a comprehensive resource. Rather, it is a starting point for learning more about this important developmental phase as well as the teenage years to come. Happy reading!


Girls and Boys

Girl Specific

Boy Specific

Global Interest Books




Tourist Activities for Tweens & Teenagers

So you have a teenager (or tween) coming to visit or you are looking for something fun to do with your own energetic young adult.  What are some fun, slightly more grown up and erm, "cooler" things you can do with them?  Here are some suggestions from local moms & dads.




Boardgames You Can Actually Play With Your Kids

Park Slope Parents share the favorite boardgames they like to play with their kids.




Visiting Washington DC with Tweens and Teens

Parents share what to do and see in Washington DC with Tween and Teen kids.

Photo caption: The Air & Space Museum got a lot of thumbs up from PSP parents. Photo courtesy of the Smithsonian Institute



Where Do You Shop For Clothes For Your Tween?

As one PSP member writes:  “My (almost) 11 year-old daughter has officially outgrown the children's section of the places we've been buying clothes for her since she was small (Target, Children's Place, etc.). I think we are now into the "pre-teen" or "teen" section, which is new territory for me. I'm looking for reasonably priced basics (shorts, t-shirts, leggings, etc.), since she will either destroy or outgrow everything she owns in a season. Suggestions?”

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Dealing with Street Harassment

PSP members talk about how to handle street harassment (like cat calling, sexual remarks, lewd comments, leering).  



How to Get Kids Out of Bed in the Morning

Wondering how to get your kid out of bed in the morning? You are not alone with this problem! Here, PSP parents share how they successfully get their teen/tween out of bed in the morning.

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Anti-Racism Resources for Tweens, Teens, and their Parents

A curated list of movies, books, and resources, drawn from our Understanding Race page and from across the web, to help families of tweens and teens educate and engage.

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Talking about Safety: Basic danger rules your child should know

The information below came from a letter that went home to parents of PS 172. There is some great information here. Please take some time to discuss with your kids...