"What do you recommend doing before starting to try for a second baby? Or before finding oneself pregnant again?
We're not ready yet, but I'm thinking a bit about what I want to try to do (for myself, professionally, as a family, etc) between now and then. I finally started with a pelvic floor PT, and that feels like an important one... any other wisdom welcome. I
did a quick google search and got a lot of "what to do before baby #2 arrives" (like, while pregnant) but I'm actually wondering more about the window before pregnancy."
Have #1 potty trained:
"One tip I have would be about potty training...ours are still a little young (I got pregnant with #2 when #1 was already 2 yrs old), but personally I would not have wanted to deal with potty training when I was very pregnant or had a newborn so I'd suggest either doing it before you are too far along if they are old enough or wait until after you have the baby. I hear a lot of times they regress once the new baby is born too if it hasn't been established for very long. I ended up waiting until after #2 was 4 months old to potty train #1."
Have #1 sleep trained:
"I'd also suggest getting your first into whatever sleeping arrangement you want post baby. For us we moved her into a different room and in a bigger bed 6+ months before the baby arrived so she didn’t feel displaced by the baby."
It's harder physically:
"The 2nd pregnancy is a lot harder for a lot of people physically, because you get bigger faster, pelvic floor is weaker and you are chasing around a toddler and don't have time to rest or take care of yourself in the same way...so I felt very immobile at the end the 2nd time."
Get physically fit:
Get in shape, as the previous poster mentioned 2nd time can be harder on the body and I just want to get stronger and more fit before getting pregnant again. I had wrist and sciatic stuff last time so anything to preempt that, and also diastasis and pelvic floor strengthening."
"Take care of myself!! Up my prenatal supplement game, get acupuncture, etc. last time I was super in top of this and it was really good for me so I want to be more consistent starting now."
"Lose weight! I am at the tail end of breastfeeding and hoping that weaning will help me lose some of the weight I haven't been able to shed. I really want to get back down before starting another pregnancy so I am not insanely huge."
Have a vacation:
"Plan a getaway: this might be something that happens during pregnancy but I really want to have a little time away with no baby before it starts all over again. I was starting to think about 2nd baby and the timing of a pregnancy and then got really overwhelmed by the whole thing so thinking about having 5-6 months to prepare feels a lot better."
This being my second time around I would add that I really loved traveling with our first. We went pretty far abroad and experienced new places in a totally new way with a toddler. It’s not as easy to do with 2 kids for a multitude of reasons. So if you like to travel, do some bucket list trips with your first.
Go on some more date nights:
"Also go out and do some date nights with your husband while you can still drink and still get a friend or relative eager to watch your one child. The pool of people willing/able to do that once you have 2 get infinitely smaller!"