Dealing with Death

How to help you and how to help you help the little ones cope and understand death.

 

How To Talk To Kids About Death: Overview

 

This is an overview from the 2018 talk, "How To Talk with Kids About Death" Park Slope Parents and Green-wood Cemetery co-sponsored. 

Presenters:

Amy Cunningham The Inspired Funeral

Liana Smith-Murphy, play, child and adolescent therapist at BrooklynPlayTherapy.com

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Age appropriate honesty is important. Kids know more than we think they do. If you’re not honest kids can come up with fantasized explanations of death (“I made grandma get sick and die”). Using concrete things like “X has died. Their body is no longer working” (rather than “Nana is ‘sleeping’” which can freak young kids out and lead to, “when is she going to wake up?”). You can also talk about your beliefs: “Our family believes that after someone dies you go to heaven.”

Let kids ask questions. Many adults have issues about talking about death so kids can believe it’s not okay to talk about being sad or the death. Everyone experiences death differently.

 

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Motherless Mother Resources

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Motherless Mother Resources

Park Slope Parents has a Motherless Mothers group:

If you are not yet a PSP memer join us here

If you're already a member and would like to be added email

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Website Resources

Theimaginarylibrary on Instagram is a 100 day project on grief and loss created by a woman who recently lost her mother.

Modern Loss is new website offering candid content, resources and community on loss and grief.

Articles Shared by PSP members

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/21/style/how-to-overcome-grief.html

http://therumpus.net/2011/03/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-67-the-black-arc-of-it/

https://alovelywoman.wordpress.com/2017/05/05/12-ideas-for-motherless-daughters-on-mothers-day/

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2016/10/23/opinion/sunday/children-dont-always-live.html

Why Grief Is A Series of Contractions and Expansions

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/art/read-youre-grieving/

http://www.ahaparenting.com/blog/letter-from-your-mother-mothers-day

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/03/we-dont-lose-our-mothers-reality-more-violent-that-that

http://www.scarymommy.com/overcoming-waves-grief-when-youre-motherless-mother/?utm_source=FB

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/surviving-the-grief-of-mothering_b_9757374.html

 

Death of a Pet

Advice about helping a child deal with the death of a pet. This article contains several different scenarios of what members experienced.

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Death of a Loved One

Advice about handling the passing of a grandparent.

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How to help a child afraid of death

Advice from parents about how to talk to children about dying

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Reaching "The End"

What do you do when your kids figure out that life ends?

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Should kids view an open casket?

Should you let kids view an open casket?

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Euthanizing a pet

Experiences of putting a beloved pet to sleep.

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Talking to your kids about a school shooting (UPDATED with more resources)

This was written in response to the school shooting in Connecticut .

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Should children go to a funeral?

Should children go to a funeral of a loved one?

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Helping Children Deal with the Death of a Parent

 A parent recently seekws advice on how to comfort her young niece and nephew after their father died in a freak accident. Here are some of the thoughts and suggestions from PSP Members.

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Be sure to read the PSP article, Explaining Death To Children, which covers more general advice about loss and recovery.

 

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Meaningful Memorial Gifts

Ideas for memorial gifts that are more than flowers or a donation.

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Members Advice: Support after a baby's death

PSP members offer advice for dealing and supporting a loved one who lost a child.

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Resources to Help Children Deal With Death of a Parent

Resources for kids who have experienced the death of a parent

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