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What you need to know about ticks!

With summer starting it is worth talking about ticks. Lyme disease can be misdiagnosed, so if you have any of the symptoms (even if you don’t see a tick or bite), talk to your doctor. Be sure to read the PSP guide to what you need to know about ticks on the PSP website here.

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How To Talk To Kids About Death: Overview

 

This is an overview from the 2018 talk, "How To Talk with Kids About Death" Park Slope Parents and Green-wood Cemetery co-sponsored. 

Presenters:

Amy Cunningham The Inspired Funeral

Liana Smith-Murphy, play, child and adolescent therapist at BrooklynPlayTherapy.com

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Age appropriate honesty is important. Kids know more than we think they do. If you’re not honest kids can come up with fantasized explanations of death (“I made grandma get sick and die”). Using concrete things like “X has died. Their body is no longer working” (rather than “Nana is ‘sleeping’” which can freak young kids out and lead to, “when is she going to wake up?”). You can also talk about your beliefs: “Our family believes that after someone dies you go to heaven.”

Let kids ask questions. Many adults have issues about talking about death so kids can believe it’s not okay to talk about being sad or the death. Everyone experiences death differently.

Ask kids questions and listen. “What do you think happens when you die?” “How are you feeling?” Know that sadness, anger and maybe relief are natural emotions to be feeling.

Any child old enough to love is old enough to grieve. Grieving is not a pathology that we need to “fix.” There are ebbs and flows in grieving. Also know that kids (young kids especially) can’t take a lot of intense sadness at once. If they seem really sad but then seem to be happy, that’s normal. If kids are running around laughing at the funeral remember—they’re just kids! Oh, and don’t assume that the death of a pet isn’t as upsetting as the death of a person.

How does age effect how kids deal with death? Of course it depends on the child, but generally…

  • Kids under 7 don’t understand the permanence of death; they are egocentric and full of magical thinking. Things like “grandpa has gone to heaven and will look down on us” can lead to “grandpa is always watching me.”
  • Kids 9-12 or so have more awareness of death and can comprehend ideas about an afterlife.

Inform the kids’ school that there’s been a death and ask they can keep an eye on your child. Kids are sensitive to being “different” so may not want to talk about death with their friends, teachers or school counselors.

Letting kids get involved can help them process their grief. Don’t force them to help; offer but don’t push (follow their lead). Decorating the cremation box (which is cardboard), shovel soil into the grave, help spread the ashes, write letters to the deceased for the coffin or cremation box, or write a story/obituary about the deceased. If they want to look at an open casket that’s okay. Ask if they want to speak at the funeral (if appropriate).

Honor the dead with rituals

  • Light a candle
  • Do something special on the birthday of the deceased
  • Make a memory box/scrapbook of their life that you can bring out during holidays
  • Tell stories about the deceased to keep their memory alive


(Here are some other we've researched)

  • Make their favorite meal
  • Visit their grave and bring flowers
  • Watch their favorite movie, read their favorite book, listen to their favorite music
  • Plant a memorial tree, buy a memorial bench
  • Keep an item of clothing that they have in your closet

Lean on others (friends, family, therapists) for your own grieving. If you are not okay you can’t be present for your kids. All of the things mentioned above can also help you (e.g., rituals, processing, etc.)

Here’s the Children’s Booklist by the National Home Funeral Alliance that has a bunch of different books that help explain death to kids of different ages. The book Milestones was one that the speakers mentioned specifically.

 

Resources for Coping with Park Slope's Tragedy

For many, the crash at 9th Street and 5th Avenue on March 5th, 2018 was very emotional. For people on the scene it was even more traumatic.  We're working with some trauma and grief therapists (thanks to them for reaching out) to put together sessions that may help folks deal with the emotional aftermath of today's scene. Here are those resources:

Whether you were a witness, heard about it and were impacted, or had another experience that was retriggered by last week’s neighborhood (local? 5th Avenue?) tragedy, your feelings around this matter.

Below is a list of therapists who have offered support or have been listed as specializing in trauma/grief. We appreciate their stepping forward to help. (As a reminder—this is not an endorsement of any one therapist or approach to therapy.)

It's important to be supportive of the people who were there; it can help with their recovery.  We are going to gather a list of resources and post those as well.  

Please share these resources with your nanny-- some were at the scene and others know someone who has been impacted.

Resources about coping with this traumatic event:

 

 

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The Doughnut Fix Launch Party

Bring your child (8-years-old and up) to the Brooklyn Public Library to celebrate the publication of The Doughnut Fix, the first book in a fun new series by New York author Jessie Janowitz.
Meet the author and hear her read an excerpt from the book!


Enjoy hands-on activities!

There will be a book sale and signing!

Doughnuts will be served!


What: The Doughnut Fix Launch Party
When: Saturday, April 21st
Time: 1:00pm
Where: Brooklyn Public Library, Dweck Center

More Info HERE

Donut Fix

 

This event is recommended for ages 8 and up.

 

Top Twenty Baby on the Beach Tips

 

 

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Basics:
Swimsuit – depending on the age, either a float suit with adjustable buoyancy or “puddle-jumper” floaties
Rashguard – longer-sleeved suits that protect best from sun
Sun Hat – with tie and long back
Beach Towels (2/child) – reserve one for an end-of-the-beach-day-scrub
Sunscreen (check the use-by date and get a baby-friendly one)**
Swim diapers (even if kids don’t go in the water these are good)
Wipes
Water bottle/cup – Yeti or Thinkbaby make good ones
Washable Beach Bag with wet bags or large Ziplocs
Bucket – good for transporting items (including drinks and ice) to the beach and then for beach play 

 

Extras
Baby swimming pool – doubles as a bath if you’re camping
Sand toys and a sand bag for easy storage – yogurt containers and large plastic spoons work great as well
Portable Beach chairs with cup-holders
Portable non perishable snacks – bananas are very bad travelers
Spray bottle for misting – or for squirt fights for older kids
Post-Beach change of clothes for everyone – bring extra diapers/clean underwear so nobody has a sandy tush for the ride home
Diaper rash ointments and powder – sometimes sitting in a wet swim diaper can trigger a rash
Water shoes – brands that PSP’ers like are Natives, Old Navy, Keens (fit wider feet) and Saltwater. Open toed shoes are recommended as longer lasting.
Beach Umbrella – bring something heavy or find a rock to hammer the base deep into the sand
Beach tent – these are great for baby naps so you can be hands-free. Check Amazon and IKEA (online) for a selection. Gear to Go Outfitters rents beach tents. Make sure that the tent has good ventilation (or it can be a mini-sauna) and that it can be safely staked down so it doesn’t blow away

**A Special note about sunscreen:
The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), the Skin Cancer Foundation, and the American Academy of Dermatology (AAD) all recommend that you hold off on applying sunscreen until baby is 6 months old.
Sunscreen hasn't been tested on babies younger than this age, and it is simply not known whether it's harmful or helpful. But the AAP and the AAD add that if for some reason you can't keep your baby out of the sun or well-covered, then sunscreen should be applied.
However, the chemicals in sunscreens are likely to be absorbed more quickly through the skin and into the bloodstream in babies than in children or adults.
"They're a smaller package," explains Maribeth Chitkara, M.D., a spokesperson for the Skin Cancer Foundation and a pediatrician. "If you measure the area of their body surface and compare it to what they weigh, that ratio is much higher in a baby. This means they have a higher risk of absorbing more chemicals."
What's more, a baby's sensitive skin is more likely to react to the ingredients in sunscreens. Finally, experts agree that babies shouldn't be in direct sun long enough to need sunscreen in the first place.