Aging Parents Support & Resources

Are you dealing with an aging parent or loved one? In this section you will find resources for helping an aging parent.

 

PSP Resources:

 

Join the PSP tough stuff group "Aging Parents" to talk and share experiences with members who know what you are dealing with and going though.  Not a member of PSP? Already a Member of PSP? Click HERE to sign up to access the PSP Aging Parents group.

 

Other groups and organizations that can help:

 

ReServ
ReServe Inc. is for "continuing professionals" who are looking for something to do part-time

Community Service Society of NY (CSSNY)
CCSNY offers a retired senior volunteer program where they interview the senior to try to match them with the right volunteer situation.

Heights and Hills
This is Judy Willig's group. They have a volunteer program.

Kings Bay Y and Kings Bay Y at Windsor Terrace
The Kings Bay Y has an outreach program to helps Senior Citizens

 

Websites designed to help caregivers track care:

 

Aging Life Care Association:
"There is something called a geriatric care manager. They have an association. This website lets you search for companies / people by state and city. We had one for my mother-in-law in Michigan when she was living alone in her house and one in Scottsdale for her selection of / transition to assisted living. A geriatric care manager is the person (usually a registered nurse) who coordinates all the home care services and doctors and medications, is familiar with local providers and institutions, goes to all her doc appts armed w her medical history, and manages any health crises as they arise. They then can email status updates to the adult children who live far away. They can manage on-going health issues as well as short-term transitions in living situation, and should know well all the adult living options in their cities."

eCare Diary

Connect Caregiver
This is an Intel-GE venture called ‘Care Innovations.’ The company is piloting a web-based program called ‘Connect Caregiver’ which is an online organizer/ tracker as well. The ‘Connect Caregiver’ website is intended for use by multiple caregivers involved in care and can be especially helpful to long-distance caregivers."

 

Recommended books about aging and end of life care:

 

Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande

"I recommend Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End, by Atul Gawande.  The central thesis of the book is that the experience of the end of life has been problematized and addressed by medical models that place extending life over quality of life and institutional frameworks that place safety and efficiency over the ability for people to have autonomy over the last part of their lives. Reading this book helped my mother change her final wishes from basically keep me plugged in and throw every medical intervention at me to let me die naturally."

5@55: The 5 Essential Documents you Need By Age 55

"There is another book called 5@55."

 

Further reading from around the web about aging and end of life care:

 

Do Not Adjust Your Screen or Sound - an article on estranged relationships

When Adult Children Become Financial Caregivers

A Life Worth Ending - The era of medical miracles has created a new phase of aging, as far from living as it is from dying. A son’s plea to let his mother go.

Aging with Dignity: 5 Wishes - "I like this document for plans about care at the end of life. It moves beyond health care proxies and includes what people really WANT in their last days. Who to care for them, medical treatment, comfort levels, and others. It’s certainly not an easy discussion to have."