Summer's end means changing childcare needs for many of us, whether hiring a nanny or moving on from a current nanny is on the horizon. Whatever your situation, we have tons of information to guide you as you make the best choices for your family.
Hiring a Nanny?
The 2014 Park Slope Parents Guide to Hiring a Nanny [Beta] is a combination of best-practices, insights and honest expressions culled from years of experience by a diverse group of parents who have all been where you are now. It includes:
Need an after school nanny/babysitter? We asked you for ideas and experiences, and have put together the PSP Guide to Hiring an After School Sitter.
Park Slope Parents strongly recommends you have a work agreement in place. Get yours here.
Does Your Nanny Need a Job?
Be sure to review our "Helping Your Nanny Find A Job" info on the PSP Website.
Need to post about your nanny? Please see the updated PSP requirements including our required template for nanny recommendations! We have a dedicated nanny moderator so it can take 24-36 hours for your message to post.
Saying "Goodbye" to your nanny? See our tips to help with the transitions including severance pay, goodbye partings, and more.
We have a section for nannies! Send your caregiver the PSP "Information For Nannies" guide with tips and advice to help them secure their next job.
Creating a Nanny Share?
We have updated The PSP Guide to a Successful Nanny Share to include tips from what works (and what doesn't) to salary information, scheduling advice and more.
Let us know if you have any questions or concerns in your search or posting process by emailing " onclick="window.open(this.href,'','scrollbars=yes,resizable=yes,location=yes,menubar=yes,status=yes,toolbar=yes,left=0,top=0');return false;"> .
In the meantime, happy summer and best of luck.
See you around the Slope.
Melissa and Susan,
Park Slope Parents
- Category: News
LET’S RAISE SOME MONEY!
Last week’s discussion about lack of access to bathrooms at JJ Byrne Playground made it clear that we need more staffing at Washington Park. The first step in this process is hiring a seasonal worker—at a cost of approximately $17,500. Below is a link so you can help make that happen.
If we can raise $50K in a month surely we can raise $18K. Been in the park in the past year? Please consider making a donation to the park. If everyone gives $10 then we’ll quickly have enough money to make sure that the bathrooms are staffed and peeing outside the stalls is a thing of the past! Washington Park is one of Park Slope’s best outdoor areas. It’s a great place for people of all ages.
Below is this week’s programming on the turf and in the tent:
PSP turned 12 this week! Wow! 12 years of Park Slope Parents! We’ve had some highs and lows, so we thought we’d look back at some of our most memorable moments....
Swingers Post (2004)
An often overlooked classic thread in which someone made a serious request to swap nookie with another couple and a fun back and forth ensued!
Starting PSP CLassifieds (2004)
Two years after the start of PSP we split into two different groups, relegating our buy/sell/trade/nanny/real estate messages to another site to make things more manageable. This is our busiest list, with an average of 2750 messages a month!
Threatened with a Lawsuit (2005)
Did you know we had to shut down the archives after being threatened with a lawsuit? Who imagined we had such an effect on the community?
4. Boy’s Hat (2006)
Someone posted about a finding “boy’s blue hat” and received a response that all because it’s blue, that doesn’t necessarily make it a boy’s hat. A wild and crazy discussion of good intentions, gender bending and more unfolded. It earned PSP some notoriety as it picked up media attention in outlets like New York magazine and Gawker!
Our Fabulous PSP Volunteer Facepainters (2006-present)
We’ve taught over 50 volunteer moms (and a few dads) how to facepaint for our Fall Festivals and Spring Flings. Factor in those face painters over 10 events with 6 facepainters over 4 hours doing 12 faces per hour and you’ve got almost 3,000 faces! And we’ve gone from great to fabulous!
Nanny Surveys (2008 - present)
Membership fees help support this nationally known survey of how much pay, holidays and vacation, responsibilities, and has been a force in helping employers and nannies have a better relationship. Families have come to rely on this as a go to source for how they can do right by their nanny.
Career Networking (2008 - present)
With over 2,500 parents who work online and off, our Career Networking forum has helped thousands of members over the years find freelancing work, work/life tips and accounting advice, plus lots more. Plus our famous “Shmoozefests have helped make business partnerships and alliances happen in the community.
Ice Cream Ban (2012)
A classic thread where someone asked about the legality of pushcart vendors in the park, the media mistakenly cross-referenced it with a 2010 NYTimes article about banning ice cream trucks, and Park Slope parents were charged as “guilty” for being wimps.
Hurricane Sandy (2012)
Park Slope Parents showed the world how “community” is really done. Drives for towels to clothes, back packs, and food helped the hardest hit areas of Brooklyn weather the aftermath of Sandy. Even the media featured our efforts!
Thanks to our PSP members for rallying.
Pregnancy Groups (2014)
After local shop Boing Boing stopped organizing pregnancy groups, Park Slope Parents stepped in to make them happen.
Halloween Parade (2008- present)
Park Slope Parents formed the PSP Puppeteers and helped make giant puppets with the help of the Puppeeteer’s Cooperative. We’ve got a growing collection that comes out each year to march in the parade!
600+ Membership Discounts… and growing (2009 -present)
Membership has it’s benefits and we have local, growing businesses as well as big names like Zipcar discounts and free Time Out New York subscriptions. Find 'em all HERE.
Shit Park Slope Parents Say (2013)
A great video that hits the nail on the head on so many stereotypes about Park Slope parents. Don’t miss PSP making a Buzzfeed list either!
- Category: Membership
Did you know that PSP has a knitting group?
A Cooking Group?
A Babies with Siblings Group?
A PSP Green Group?
A Hiking Group?
A Stay at Home Moms Group?
A Working Moms Group?
A Tweens Group?
A Dad’s Group?
Even a PSP Grandparents Group (you can use another email)?
Interested in any of these other groups??
If you are already PSP member, you can sign up HERE
To become a PSP member, you can join HERE
January 19, 2014
Dear PSP Community,
Let us start by saying--- the overwhelming majority of nannies and house cleaners are honest, trustworthy, and reliable. We start with that fact since listing situations where people are less than honest may make these situations seem more common than they are. We felt, however, that it was important to share these recent situations with you as a reminder to do your due diligence when it comes hiring someone to work in your home. Here are some situations that occurred within the PSP community over the past year:
--Nannies fired for stealing. There are two cases that we were alerted to. In one case an employer was suspicious that the nanny was stealing things such as jewelry, socks, and underwear. The employer confronted the nanny (after contacting the 78th precinct, who said they receive quite a few inquiries about this). The nanny confessed and returned many of the family’s items (via a pawn broker). Needless to say, the family was left shaken. In the end the employer did not file charges against the nanny.
In the second case the nanny was suspected of stealing, it was confirmed, the nanny has been arrested and a court date has been set. (NOTE: Neither nanny was hired off the PSP Classifieds and in the second case the employer felt that since the website they used did a background check they didn’t need to do further investigation. Upon some Googling it was clear that there were red flags they should have spotted.)
--Nanny and disappearing liquor. An employer suspected a nanny of stealing cognac out of the liquor cabinet. Her hunch was correct and the nanny was fired.
--Nanny not stealing, but nanny’s friend was. There was an employer who suspected her nanny of stealing but it turned out it was another nanny who was at the house for a play date who was stealing.
--Snooping software installed on a nanny’s phone. Someone on one of our baby groups posted that they helped a nanny remove snooping software that tracks texts, phone calls, etc. that was installed by the nanny’s employer.
--False posts and illegitimate references. A caregiver signed up as multiple references and posted recommendations about her ‘great nanny’-- herself. Upon confrontation by Park Slope Parents & intervention with the DA, she claimed she had their permission to post on their behalf. None of the recommenders ever came forward or contacted us to corroborate. The caregiver and the other identities/aliases are banned from PSP and all her recommendations purged.
--Nanny hired based on a false references. A nanny (previously banned from PSP) contacted someone who posted an “ISO Nanny post.” The nanny offered references that didn’t quite check out but somehow seemed “reasonable enough”. It turns out the employer hired the nanny through false references. Upon discovery, the employer fired the nanny “with cause.” The nanny is now seeking unemployment and the employer is dealing with the Department of Labor to fight the case.
What can be done?
Park Slope Parents continually does its best to screen posts and catch fake references. We vet our posts for authenticity, matching our records with information submitted, cross-checking with other posts made by the employer, searching Craigslist, Facebook and even LinkedIn to validate identities. If questionable, we contact the reference/employer for verification. Moreover, false nanny posts are considered “false advertising” under Section 190.20 of the New York State Penal Law, which is a Class A misdemeanor and punishable to up to a year in jail. We work closely with the 78th Precinct, the District Attorney’s office, and Brad Lander’s office to make sure that we are doing what we can to protect the community from false advertising - especially as it involves our children’s safety.
We do not have a “Black List” of nannies-- it’s legally and morally problematic (even the blog “I Saw Your Nanny” is no longer active). We do not condone snooping software and nanny cams (we feel you should inform them), although we understand there may be incidents where this is necessary. We DO reach out to employers if there is illegal behavior (like stealing) to see if we can help. However it is ultimately up to the employer to press charges (or not).
You need to do your part. While it can be uncomfortable checking up on someone who seems perfectly nice, has worked for a friend, or is a friend of a friend, it’s a discomfort you should overcome to keep your children (as well as your belongings and home) safe. If something does happen and you just “want the situation over with”, charging someone with a crime is a great way to help keep a searchable paper trail on people who are behaving illegally while protecting other families from falling victim to the same crime in the future.
Here is a checklist of things YOU CAN DO to avoid hiring nannies/caregivers who may be problematic
-Check multiple references, meeting them in person if possible. Ask detailed questions and request examples of their "glowing" abilities. If they can't come up with specific examples you may have a ringer. Do not rely on written recommendations.
-Search Google, Craigslist, Facebook, and LinkedIn for references to the nanny’s identity
-Search Google, Craigslist, Facebook, and LinkedIn for references to the reference’s identity. Knowing more about who has employed the nanny in the past can give you insight into the type of situation in which the nanny worked and the people the nanny worked for.
-Do your own investigation, even if you are using a service or website who conducts “background checks.” Background checks may only reveal convictions and not arrests, and for someone who will work in your home you probably want to know about both. Knowing as much as you can helps you make informed decisions.
-Rely on employers to contact you rather than nannies themselves on Park Slope Parents. Recommenders are NOT supposed to be forwarding your information to their nanny but contacting potential employers directly.
-Request an ID and documentation of potential employees to confirm identity and address. If they indicate they use multiple names (married, nickname, etc.) ask for documentation and keep a record of it.
-Consider asking for a reference beyond the employer. If they have past work experience outside of being a nanny, ask for a reference from a former boss. If they have been in school, ask to speak with a former teacher.
-Alter details when you talk to the references and see if the reference corrects you. Consider changing the age or sex of the children or where the people live ("You are the family in Cobble Hill, right?”). If they don't correct or catch the error this is a big red flag.
-Ask the references about where they had put up advertisements and recommendations for the nanny.
-Do a background check. Although this has limitations it can be illuminating and money well spent.
-Double check facts given by the nanny and the reference about the working situation (e.g., names/ages of children, dates worked, employers' job, etc.).
-Ask tough questions, even if it’s uncomfortable.
It’s also important to be smart and safe in your home. While you may trust your nanny, you may not always know who comes to drop off or pick up your kids from a play date. Here are some reminders:
Hide valuables. Keep valuables out of sight and keep things in places that don’t invite temptation.
Mark your valuables (use a police engraver when possible). The NYPD has an Operation ID program where they will lend you their engraver.
Conceal prescriptions. If you have medications that are re-sellable, consider buying a small box with a lock to store prescription medications. At the very least keep them out of sight.
Limit key access. Keep access to your apartment limited and inventory your keys. (Some nannies actually don’t want to keep a key to their employer’s apartment so they won’t be suspect if something happens.)
Have emergency contact numbers. Ask for an emergency number for your nanny. It could save their life or could help you track down a problem person.
Do random spot checks. Come home (or to a class, or the park) at times the nanny is not expecting it.
Talk to your local NYPD Precinct Community Affairs Officer. They can help guide you through your options if you run into issues related to criminal activity.
FINALLY--- Don’t shrug off that uneasy feeling. Do trust your instincts if you feel something isn’t quite right. Investigate until you feel that you are satisfied. Even people we trust can turn out to be deceiving us.
We hope that you all have fabulous relationships with your nannies or house cleaners free of incident. These incidents are few and far between, but taking the right precautions will help alleviate much of the worry. Finally, trusting your gut when things seem amiss will help keep everyone safe!
Founder, Park Slope Parents
Melissa De Witte