Resources for Coping with Park Slope's Tragedy

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For many, the crash at 9th Street and 5th Avenue on March 5th, 2018 was very emotional. For people on the scene it was even more traumatic.  We're working with some trauma and grief therapists (thanks to them for reaching out) to put together sessions that may help folks deal with the emotional aftermath of today's scene. Here are those resources:

Whether you were a witness, heard about it and were impacted, or had another experience that was retriggered by last week’s neighborhood (local? 5th Avenue?) tragedy, your feelings around this matter.

Below is a list of therapists who have offered support or have been listed as specializing in trauma/grief. We appreciate their stepping forward to help. (As a reminder—this is not an endorsement of any one therapist or approach to therapy.)

It's important to be supportive of the people who were there; it can help with their recovery.  We are going to gather a list of resources and post those as well.  

Please share these resources with your nanny-- some were at the scene and others know someone who has been impacted.

Resources about coping with this traumatic event:

• Guide to Helping Children Cope
• Coping after Traumatic EventsCoping after Traumatic Events
• Resources for Parents and Caregivers
• Seasame Street has great resources to help you help small children cope. 

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How To Talk To Kids About Death: Overview

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This is an overview from the 2018 talk, "How To Talk with Kids About Death" Park Slope Parents and Green-wood Cemetery co-sponsored. 

Presenters:

Amy Cunningham The Inspired Funeral

Liana Smith-Murphy, play, child and adolescent therapist at BrooklynPlayTherapy.com

Age appropriate honesty is important. Kids know more than we think they do. If you’re not honest kids can come up with fantasized explanations of death (“I made grandma get sick and die”). Using concrete things like “X has died. Their body is no longer working” (rather than “Nana is ‘sleeping’” which can freak young kids out and lead to, “when is she going to wake up?”). You can also talk about your beliefs: “Our family believes that after someone dies you go to heaven.”

Let kids ask questions. Many adults have issues about talking about death so kids can believe it’s not okay to talk about being sad or the death. Everyone experiences death differently.

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Friendly reminders about being responsible parents at bars/restaurants

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Category: Managing Urban Life

In addition to being amazing places to eat, drink and make merry, our local restaurants and bars have a secondary task of keeping their establishments safe and healthy, not only for families but for all visitors. Recently a local establishment has tightened up their house rules for children. Given our interactions with businesses in the past we know that there are many attempts to work with families before deciding to establish “kid-friendly” hours and rules. We know that it only takes a few people’s behavior to cause these changes, and we want to remind you that there are many citywide rules and safety regulations (FDNY and Department of Health) imposed on bars and restaurants.  

Here’s the ask. We ask that you be extra-considerate and neighborly at our local bars and restaurants, where people may be looking for a break from kids (theirs, others’, both) and could conceivably mistake our children's fabulosity for excess.  Here are some guidelines, recommendations and rules from local bars and restaurants that we’ve heard from over the past 15 years. We feel that these rules should apply to ALL families patronizing restaurants and bars so that these establishments remain welcoming to families. If you feel we’re missing anything from the list below, shoot us an email at and we’ll add it to the list.

·        Children should be supervised at all times. Wait and bar staff are not de facto babysitters when parents are not paying attention.

• No climbing on the furniture, games, pool table, bocce ball court, etc.

• No changing diapers outside of the bathrooms. (This is a health issue and could result in hefty fines for a bar/restaurant. It’s also just uncouth).

• If you are waiting outside, please do your best to not block the sidewalks or doorways.

• If your child is screaming or crying for more than 30 seconds and cannot be consoled, please be considerate and remove them from the scene until they are calm.

• If your child is throwing food/drink/silverware onto the floor do your best to stop the behavior. Do not place the spoon they just threw on the floor back into reaching distance.

• No running, pushing or horseplay.

• Strollers must not block the front entrance or emergency exits. (This is a fire hazard and could lead to unsafe conditions as well as fines for a bar/restaurant)

• If you can come without a stroller please try to do so. Bringing strollers into businesses means less walking space for others; please be mindful of passageways.

• Do not let your child sit directly on the floor, inside or outside.

• Shoes and clothes must be worn at all times.

• Keep young children with you at your table rather than have an unsupervised “kids table.”

• Stay within arms reach of the kids you’re responsible for.

• Do your best to pick up after your kids if they make a giant mess.

• Do not leave dirty diapers in the bathroom garbage without first wrapping them up in something airtight. (Small spaces and dirty diapers do not go together.)

The overwhelming majority of our groups (especially our baby groups) have wonderful relationships with our local bars and restaurants. We want to do our best to ensure that these positive experiences continue. If you’re meeting up with your PSP group friends,  please buy something from the meet-up place, tip the baristas and wait-staff generously, pick up after yourselves, make sure you have everything you came with, and be the kind of people who management and staff want to welcome back.

Useful PSP reviews:

Kid Friendly Restaurants

Baby Friendly Meet Up Spots